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My (30F) guy (50M) and I have been together for close to 8 years now. He catfished me into thinking he was younger but because we mentally connected first, I overlooked the age gap. In recent years, things have taken a bad turn. I don’t know if it’s because he is dealing with the loss of his dad or learning how to be a caretaker to his 88 year old mom but he snaps very quickly lately.

We are long distance and fight a lot more than normal and because he is my first experience, I am unsure what is normal and not okay. When he gets mad or jealous, he says horrible things — he has called me things like slut, whore, stupid bitch, etc. Recently, he has been mad about how I financially support my family who he considers freeloaders. I have never asked him for any money but he doesn’t want me to spend mine on them either. He has also critiqued my weight in the past and made comments about stretch marks and said I need to look better and at my age he was very good looking.

It’s hard because I do work on myself and I’ve never commented on how he looks even though he is balding (understandable at his age and not an issue for me) and not exactly in great shape. He is just very critical. But our most current fight relating to my family was the worst:

When he threatened to send XXX pics of me to my family, I freaked out and told my sister. He is mad that I went to my sister and “threw him under the bus” because those threats were between me and him. He called me useless and said he wishes he had used and disposed of me.

I told him I’m done with him but today he is acting like nothing happened. Is this all normal? Is this how couples fight or is this emotional abuse? He laughs and says I’m being dramatic when I bring this up.

Why would I be surprised that you one day eventually strike me back with the same or worse payback?

why don’t people have commonsense?

live and let live or don’t complain when someone returns the same treatment multiplied by how much they want since you’ve angered them.

israel pouring concrete on Palestinian waterways to make their life unlivable and then expect them NOT to react? Wtf

I don’t agree with wars but don’t poke someone to their limits and then cry when they return the blow. And don’t expect them to hit you back the same way, you don’t dictate how someone else should take your beatings.

if you hit me and don’t stop, don’t expect me to hit you back the same, expect harder because you don’t know how I’ll react, and then cry about how hard you got hit back. or better yet just leave me alone and live your life. That applies to everyone, anyone, anything and everything.

Of you start something then take the consequences without bitching, complaining and crying. reap what you see.

same applies to Ukraine. should have stood up to usa when usa went in to illegally overthrow their democratically elected government to install one of THEIR preference causing an insurrection there initiating the civil war in Ukraine.

instead of poking the bear, they should have stood up against usa’s illegal meddling which is what took Ukraine to the hell it is today.

I find this very true due to many don't have as much confidence. And when they don't, the world sees. And steps on their head and makes them their bitch.