PUAs harness one thing, anger. They prey on frustrated men. They run a false flag operation selling men false hopes that it is the world that needed rejecting all along. It’s been established that the “alpha/beta” talk was misconceived behavior observed between the father and offspring of a pack of wolves. I also believe it is also rife in male homosexual community.
Anger, is a powerful tool. It is so potent that it is destructive to both the wielder and those around us. PUAs will instruct men to direct their anger towards women. It’s basically what happens when a boy who pulls the hair of a girl he likes never grows up to control his emotions. PUAs formalize this into a system of half truths and deception centered around lowering the self-esteem of those around them.
First, these boys believe they are never wrong. They are a gods in their own minds, living in their imaginations. They uncompromisingly will not tolerate questioning of their authority, even when proven wrong. Their conversations are a relentless onslaught of insults to everyone around them. Their messages are littered with hypocrisies, inconsistencies, contradictions, emotion, conceit, and mountains of arrogance. Compendious, they are not. Stuck, in perpetual boyhood. This makes them numb. It makes them dangerous to those around them and themselves. These boys are part of the cohort that have a lower survival rate. They tend to do dumb things or find themselves in dangerous situations desensitized from their anger. These are the types getting into car wrecks, dying from drug overdoses, committing crime, dying from assault, or frequenting jails. They are oft referred to as the bad boys.
When these “men” talk about “the wall”, they are the purveyors of their own prophecy. The girls they interact with are constantly subjected to instability. It is a roller coaster of emotion. Much pain, and much excitement. This causes premature wear on them. These girls will let themselves go in self defense so they can better tolerate the abuse. These girls seem to think they can save these boys. But these boys have not found peace. They have not been taught or have not accepted how to deal with rejection. Emotion rules them, only they can save themselves.
The path of stoicism is an alternative that can be channeled to navigate all aspects of life. It ensures longevity and a collected head as a true pathfinder.
If you’re feeling anger, are excessively talkative, or if you find yourself constantly insulting people, try one thing: Shut, the fuck, up. Seriously, shut the fuck up. If you ever find yourself monologuing or shit talking like a gossipy little girl, shut your mouth. Instead of outwardly processing your emotions, direct them inward. Let your body process them. One thing I like to do is put on calming music and not say a word. I don’t gesticulate, I don’t bitch, I stop and think to myself without speaking for minutes on end.
This isn’t about meditation. It’s about pushing the crap out of your mind and instead focusing on yourself in silence. Whatever is bothering you, you introspect instead of extrospect.
In the early stages, sometimes it will manifest into tears, don’t break frame. Let your body weep and maintain focus. Don’t let your mind be clouded.
If you do this regularly, if you truly practice being concise, succinct, and actually compendious, it will start to show in your day to day interaction. Rejection, will become water of a duck’s back. You will no longer fear judgement. In fact, you will welcome it. Each test you pass will gain further momentum, building up brick by brick. This is the path to stoicism. It makes you harder to manipulate. It makes you more disciplined. It enables you to listen and HEAR women. You will not see them as objects to be conquered, but as human beings. You will discover the power of raising them up as opposed to tearing them down. Don’t roll over and cow tow to them, that’s being the predatorily sycophant that they despise. Being polite is not necessarily being kind. Maintain your beliefs, use constructive support as opposed to destructive criticism. You will begin to see the suffering of those around you. You will feel a sense of duty, to be a rock for them to lean on.
When you interact with women, learn to listen. Stay engaged. Hear what they are saying as they process their own emotions. If you maintain frame, as calm and collected, they will slide into comfort if they trust you. Your words and reassurances can’t be lies, they must be truthful and true. They must be helpful. They must give her a sense of security. They must validate her emotions and concerns. Do not stray and tune out.
It also helps controlling what media you choose to consume. Begetting. If politics, or anything tends to upset you, moderate your consumption. Make sure you don’t get worked up.
This isn’t about being emotionless. An emotionless husk in fact CANNOT be stoic. Emotion is your guide. It is the fire you wield to light the way. You must acknowledge and embrace your emotion to render sound judgement.
”Be the mountain that the wind parts way, the rock that the streams flows round, the tree that the rain trickles down”. -Me
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"It’s been established that the “alpha/beta” talk was misconceived behavior observed between the father and offspring of a pack of wolves."
Yes! Exactly. There is one person on GAG in particular who keeps going on about "Alpha males" (which is based upon the alpha-male wolf idea), and I've told him how the whole concept has been thoroughly discredited, debunked, and even denounced and rejected by the guy who originally came up with the idea, but he doesn't seem to care.
As for Stoicism, no, that's not for me. In my view to live like this would be absolutely dreadful, and dreadfully boring and regimented.
Marcus Aurelius "Meditations" changed my life. It should be required reading for every human. I practice Stoicism, Shintoism, ORIGINAL Siddhartha version of Mahayana Buddhism and ethical humanism. Each one provides stability for mind, body and spirit. Great read!
No way! That book is bloody BORING! I thought it would be good too, if only because it's been praised by so many for so long over the centuries, but nope.
a surprising angle. tnx.