I’ve got a man on here who keeps bitching about the fact that I rejected him and I’ve noticed that men in general that I’ve met, seem to take rejection harder than women do and it stumps me as to why. Why is that?
Mature adults (both men and woman) can handle tactful rejection. But we are also told we aren’t supposed to take rude rejection personally and it’s the other person’s loss and so forth. But if if happens often people do start to get jaded.
So I have to ask how did you reject this guy? If said something along the lines of “thank you but tbh I am not interested” then he should take that in stride. If really did respectfully reject him then it’s a him problem not a you problem.
But I’m noticing fewer and fewer women nowadays don’t put the mental effort and respect into rejecting men the right way. They are ghosting, asking men “can’t we just be friends” (huge insult after he put a lot of effort into dating you), playing dumb, giving men shitty insulting hints they aren’t interested (like asking him for “advice” about other guys they like), etc.
I remember a few years ago I asked a girl who met through work (who recently for laid off) if she like to meet up for a drink. I was going to give her advice on where to go next with work but there was a hint in there I was interested. I talked to her quite a bit earlier and we both smiled while doing. She responded positively when I texted her
She rescheduled first meeting time which was fine. But then I went down to the place at the time we were supposed to meet up at and 20 mins passed. She then sent me a text saying “oh I’m so sorry I forgot”. Then I was pissed. Really pissed. I took time getting myself ready and looking good. I spent 30 bucks (60 round trip) on an Uber and went out of my nothing.
Yes she was a flake and it’s no wonder she lost her job. But that wasn’t no way my first incident with flaky women in recent years. More and more women (and some men) just “indulge” whatever emotion they have in the moment when it comes to romantically rejecting men nowadays. There is a lot less respect. Women think likeability = respect and they are not the same thing.
Anyway not saying you did that to that guy (hopefully). But men can get raw around the edges when it comes to that bs.
I think a lot of boys from a young age are taught that their worth and value comes from the acceptance of women through media, care givers, peers, etc. I think girls are taught similarly if not the same but because of how courting is in the west I think rejection weighs a bit more on the male population.
A long time ago when early humans lived in tribes to be rejected meant eventual death and/or that your bloodline would end with you and naturally the human agenda is to reproduce. The feeling of rejection is believed to be an evolutionary tool to help prevent being ostracized from the tribe and if you can imagine what early humans were like only the biggest and strongest were the ones that reproduced. Currently because of this for men being rejection feels like a direct attack on who they are fundamentally despite human survival not being dependent on tribes anymore, at least not in the literal sense.
I genuinely believe that the world will be a much better place if we raised the next generation with the teaching that being told no is okay, being rejected is okay, and that it is not the end of the world.
Regardless of gender, people have a hard time dealing with rejection because we are taught a lot of toxic things about love from a young age. Not that anyone says it in our face but as a child you observe it in the behavior of other people, you observe it in the media, everywhere you learn about the fairytale love stories and the success of them, hence showing any kind of rejection as a failure and opening the grounds for taking it very personally. Now if you're a man who grew up believing that you need to uphold a certain image as a man, and rejection hurts that image, you will not be able to accept it. If you're a woman who grew up learning that men are all down bad so no man would reject you unless there is something gravely wrong with you, your self-esteem will hurt with a rejection.
Men can bicker about how deep down it's women who actually cannot handle rejection more than them and it is actually men who are used to always being rejected while women are coddled, but the reality says otherwise. Didn't a 15 year old girl get stabbed recently by a guy who asked her out with flowers, and he already had the knife with him planning to stab her in case she said no? All around the world women face situations like acid attacks, stabbings and even murder just for saying no. The fact that men can even think that a woman just bitching to her friends about a guy who rejected her is the worst thing one can do when women's lives are on the line just shows men's ignorance and privilege.
Because their fragile little egos can't take it. I remember when I broke up with my ex because he was treating me like shit, he was very angry. Apparently I was a whore and I must've found someone else, when in actual fact, I couldn't think of anything worse than being in another relationship. The thought of being with someone who is like him by even a smidgen put me off completely.
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This is a very complex issue that could stem from many things depending on the individual in question.
Depends on the person. Just block him… Seriously. I’ve dealt with crazies on here too. They’re not worth your time.
His ego is hurt. Plain and simple !
Women never stop bitching about men rejecting them. They and you just deny it and overlook it because you want to be able to continue doing it or avoid being called out for it, and avoid having to stop it. But perhaps you have been brainwashed by feminists into believing this nonsense.
Honestly, I’d evaluate what’s the common denominator in these men? I know in my social circle there is more acceptance and sort of a “cool, move on” if you asked a girl out and they weren’t interested. Plenty of fish in the sea. Seems like some pretty immature men (or boys maybe) to be so invested in a single date that it would impact them so much. Rejection is simply part of being a man and asking out women. No need to get all twisted over it.
Because it's totally different for a guy 😂
Imagine a saleaman who closes 70% of the time and has more offers than they know what to do with vs a dude who closes 15% of the time and comes across not many leads.
One is affluent, content and reassured of their value regularly.
The other is poor, frustrated and questions what's wrong with them regularly.
Perhaps everyone has unrealistic expectations when they meet someone. Everyone thinks very highly of themselves, which in turn leads to thoughts that the next person that comes along will be better. So they continuously reject others.
Bruh 😂 I love this question. I've been rejected so many freaking times by sooooo many different people. Its gotten to the point where i just laugh when someone does. And its not just in the perspective of love. My parents rejected me, many bosses have rejected me. Dont stress about the small things like rejection y all. Happens to the best of us.
O ya know... it's like looking at the lady who's giving away free apple pies and when you ask for one, she just smiles. then someone cuts your ass and she takes the pies away.
Men in general don't take rejection any worse than a woman would.. But because it's rejection everybody in some way has taken rejection badly at one point.. But we all evolve past it.. Some people are just hurt people and have a hard time getting past it..
Peaple take rejection badly because they have to put them self's out there as a person to be judge. Most women won't, most men have to over time the more experience you have with rejection the more calist you because and you just dont care what peaple think. This guy probably is young and still thinks your opinion maters.
I wouldn't say how you take rejection is gender based its cultural more so. I also disagree for western cultures, women handle rejection worse than males because it happens way less often. Males are conditioned from a young age to expect rejection as a norm. You are taking a small sample size and using it as your average confirmation bias.
Rejection is hard. If you really have feelings for someone, if they reject you it crushes your ego for one thing but it also makes you think that you are worthless and life will always suck.
Either because they still trying to make it work, or because they butt hurt cause they think the dumper is beneath them and they are supposed to be the one to reject them
Because rejections bring them down to floor of reality.
They're immature. No one likes to deal with rejection but the best way to deal with it is to move on and never talk or think about it again.
I think anyone crying about getting rejected on an online site is insane
I don't get it. Fragile egos are the
main culprit... both men and women do this.
Men get rejected more often. And still they're expected to make a move.
Spare me. Women don't have to deal with rejection to nearly the extent men do.
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