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I get the USA is a Patriarchy but COME ON. I thought we made progress? There’s still too many men and women excusing older men who clearly MOST YOUNG WOMEN ARE NOT INTERESTED IN going after and HARASSING them. So many of these damn “sugar daddy” relationships are just cover ups and the guy is with underages girls in private and “legal” (their favorite word) girls in public. I’m tired of you WEIRDOS defending these creepy men going after women who could be THEIR DAUGHTERS. Why does it keep being ignored that MOST YOUNG WOMEN DONT WANT TO MESS WITH OLDER MEN? The majority of us who DONT want to have to deal with these creeps going after us because y'all make it seem like it’s ok and ITS NOT. And again, many of these older men who date younger women in public are PEDOS IN PRIVATE. This is the TRUTH.

For the past couple of months I've been having some friendly contact with a guy. Although he sometimes seems to be keeping his distance, he is contrarily the one to keep the conversation going and shows interest in my life. Even after the parking lot has gone empty, we often still remain a little while longer to talk.

Last night, we were hanging out at the gym and while I was talking to him, he suddenly grabbed onto the punching bag hanging beside us, and started dry-humping it. It caught me off guard, and he could clearly see the surprise on my face. We laughed about it then he jokingly mentioned he could see the surprise in my eyes.

Right afterwards, while we were still in our conversation, he started taking off his shirt, then changed into different clothes. Although I have seen more men changing while in conversation, it was very odd to me he'd do this right after he had his little... moment with the punching bag.

When we left, he mentioned he thought of me as an odd person. Then joked about being odd himself. Asked for my age and was surprised to learn I was younger than he'd imagined.

Thing is, what surprised me most by these acts and interactions is that this man is in a relationship and I do not have the sense that he is in any way interested or attracted to me. Would it be an extreme level of comfort or should I be a little more concerned? Lol.

A guy I was casual with started acting differently for the last couple of days I was with him - he put less emphasis on sex, and wanted to take long walks, talk, wach a movie together, cuddle... We also talked about our values, ideal partner and vision of the future, and we're really compatible. I would take this as him liking me.

BUT, this was the first time I experienced "slow love /like". So despite showing clear signs of liking him, I was so focused on not being in love that I thought I had no romantic interest in him, and told him that. When I came back home, he ghosted.

I asked if everything was okay, still no reply, but he kept tabs on me by viewing my every story and status. I decided to remove him from my socials and delete his number. But it felt wrong doing it without saying goodbye, so just before deleting his no., I messaged to say goodbe, also called him out on ghosting and immaturity (worded in non-accusatory manner), and mentioned I liked him. Suddenly he replied with a smiley, said he was ohw home, and that he would get back to me later. But... he ghosted again.

Today I was talking with a guy friend who was sure he liked me, and we realized this might have pushed him away: (note he's 25, and I'm in my early 30s)

while we were talking about our visions of the future and the right partner, I mentioned I don't want to wait anymore. I meant I want to find the right person soon, and not settle down (I have things to take care of before that, which will take some years). But it might have come off as the latter given the context

Now this is bugging me, and I really want to say something (maybe a couple of weeks from now). But I don't know if he would still ask about it or ghost (see below)

What would you do in his place?

1. Would you still ask me about it after I told you I liked you, despite thinking I was ready to settle down? So to clear the confusion

2. Would you rather ghost to spare your own feelings because you were sure I was ready to settle down?