This is a coworker of mine, I’m pretty sure she likes me but sometimes she’s hot and cold and it’s driving me fucking nuts. I’ll give list off why I think she likes me and then explain the hot and cold behavior. She teases me at work, hits me playfully, she’s drunk texted me before, she’ll often keep the conversation going over text, she’ll sometimes hit me up about random shit, she uses a lot of emojis, she remembers all kinds of shit about me, when I added her on snap way back when I forgot to add her back and she called a mutual friend and was upset about it, she copies the way I text and slang I use, she’ll sometimes randomly slide up on my stories, I could go on and on…
However sometimes she takes forever to respond and every now and again she’ll text me pretty dryly or leave me on opened. Sometimes (though rarely) at work she seems to not really wanna talk. This uninterested behavior is on and off (more off than on) and it drives me nuts.
What are the reasons this could be happening? I know she’s at least talked to a couple guys during this time period and I haven’t really outright flirted with her but still, it’s weird. If she thinks I’m not interested why wouldn’t she just go cold and stay that way?
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It's difficult to definitively determine someone's feelings or motivations, but there are a few possible reasons for her hot and cold behavior:
1. Mixed feelings: She might have conflicting emotions about her interest in you, leading to inconsistent behavior.
2. Uncertainty: She could be unsure about your feelings toward her, causing her to vary her responses.
3. Personal issues: Her mood and interactions could be influenced by personal matters, such as stress or other relationships.
4. Shyness: She might be shy or nervous, leading to occasional withdrawn behavior.
5. Testing the waters: Some people use hot and cold behavior as a way to gauge your interest and see how you react.
If you're interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with her, it might be a good idea to have an open and honest conversation. This can help clarify your mutual feelings and expectations, which could lead to a more consistent and harmonious interaction.
We can’t be sure of where she stands, but you know where you stand, so why not tell her you’re interested already? I’m sure you have your reservations but at least if you have that conversation you can get some genuine clarity.