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Here's my story:

I attended a fun summer daycare (not for babies) and met my crush there. I was hanging out with my best friend while she chatted with the person in charge. That person told me, "You are the shyest person I have ever met. Well, you and [my crush]." I was curious, asking myself, who could that be? The very next day, he sat next to me on the bus. He's pretty cute, and I began to develop feelings for him.

A whole year passed, and I hadn't revealed my crush or talked to him. Finally, I gathered the courage to tell my sisters. This turned out to be a mistake. They told my best friend and then my crush. When my best friend and I discovered that my sister spilled the beans to my crush, she insisted that I talk to him (for the very first time!). I said, "I don't know what she's talking about. I have nothing to say to you." I was so mean and embarrassing, right?

After that, his behavior became quite strange. He would always be right in front of or behind me in line, sit across from me on the bus, and twice, he followed me around when my best friend was out sick or something. One time, after being away for two weeks, I returned and was walking to the end of the line when I turned to see him staring and smiling widely at me. I literally jumped!

A few years later, on a Monday, I told the person in charge that my last day would be that Wednesday, and my crush stood next to her, looking a bit sad. Typically, we'd go to the pool on Wednesdays, but he always skipped because he didn’t like it or something. However, on that Wednesday, he came, but only to avoid going to the pool. He stayed out of the pool and watched everyone else swim (including me!). (It was my last day, not everyone else’s, which made me suspicious.) Later that day, at pickup, he stood in the middle of the hallway and watched me leave. So, what do you think? Does he like me back, or am I just imagining things? ❤

She won’t butt out. At first I took it as “okay, she means well”, but now I don’t know. I took a long break from dating and was fine just being single, and she says “nope, you’re 40 now and you’ve been single too long. You need a man in your life. Since you’re friends with me you’re getting a man whether you want one or not” (she loves to matchmake). I realize she has a point, so I get on Facebook dating. She saw me on the apps one day at lunchtime (we work together) and she’s telling me who to swipe right on, who to swipe left on, etc and when I didn’t swipe right on a guy she told me too, she literally took my phone out of my hand and swiped on a whole bunch of guys because I (according to her) “clearly don’t know how to pick men”. Eventually I did match with a guy who I really liked, we’ve been dating for almost a year, and she doesn’t like him. Apparently she’s got someone all picked out who she wants to fix me up with (who’s a really nice guy and financially well off but I’m not attracted to him). The guy understands and said it’s fine but she won’t stop and says “this guy’s perfect for you, and your boyfriend’s a loser. Dump him and give this other guy a chance.” (The guy is definitely loaded and my boyfriend supports himself well, but he treats me well and we make each other happy).

she’s gotten to the point where she’s literally taken my phone out of my hand and texted my boyfriend from my phone making really ridiculous demands on him (like demanding he get me a Louis Vuitton bag for my birthday which I know he can’t afford). She’s caused some bad fights between us this way.

I’ve tried telling her to butt out but she doesn’t. She’s dating a guy who is 25 years older than us and is trying to push me to date much older as well. My boyfriend is early 40’s, like me. Nothing wrong with dating older men, but if I’m happy why can’t she just butt out?