Is my physical therapist (m25) into me (f27)?

[Anonymous]

For the last 2 months i’ve been seeing a physical therapist and i’m so confused if he’s into me or not. The first session i wore a black bandana with skulls in my hair. We were chatting, he asked me if i was religious and i told him that i’m not but i consider mother nature as my god. The next session when i was working out he started a convo if i dye my hair (i don’t) and about how he wouldn’t be surprised if i showed up with green hair or smth the next time, i asked why and he said: it would’t surprise me because you wear skulls in your hair and then he went on: but you wouldn’t show up with dyed hair because u like things natural (so he remembered the bandana and the mother nature is my god banter). Once he asked about the meaning of my necklace (i always wear it looks like a poker chip) and i told him that i stole it 15 years ago and it’s a reminder to me of what kind of person i don’t want to be and the next session we were joking around and he said something like: like the stolen necklace you always wear. He asked me what kind of music i listen to, what i fo for a living etc. He always tells funny stories about him and his friends during our sessions. I have sessions with him every Tue&Thu, every Thu he asks me what me weekend plans are and every Tue he asks me if i did the things i said i would (he literally remembers every detail). Some sessions i bring my son with me and he kicks the ball around with him or plays games with him while i’m working out. He always holds the door open for me and lets me walk in front of him. Then a few sessions ago he asked me if i always wear the same perfume and i said yes, why? He said: bcs i have a very good nose for perfumes, i don’t even have to know the person is here, i can just follow the scent to the person. I asked if that’s good or bad (i was fishing for him to say: you smell nice or smth) and he said: not good or bad, i don’t think any kind of perfume stinks. Are those signs he likes me or is he just being friendly?

[Sam1133]

He knows you're single mother?

[Asker]

He knows me and my sons father are no longer together and every time he asks me about my weekend plans i say: nothing much just gonna get high and play games, maybe go for a joy ride (my attempt to signal that i’m free and not seeing anyone)

[Sam1133]

You want him sexually,

[Sam1133]

Lol it's a question.

[Asker]

I’m actually not that attracted to him physically, well i wasn’t at first, but then i started to get to know him a bit and i really like his personality and that’s when he became handsome in my eyes

[Anonymous]

Single mom?

[Asker]

Ofc, been single for 3 years now, i would never cheat, love=respect and if you love and respect someone you don’t cheat

[In_Trance]

Lol no

[Asker]

Could you explain please? Why not?

[In_Trance]

You think someone that's worked so long and hard on their career and their credentials did so to hook up with a train wreck? Smh...

[Asker]

What does it have to do with his career and credentials? And i wasn’t talking about a hook up. Oh and by the way you are what is wrong with humanity, judging me and making the assumption i’m a train wreck without knowing me even a little bit. Why would i take you advice seriously when you judge and insult me without knowing me? Be nicer to people you never know what they went or are going through. I am not a train wreck by the way. I am a financially stable (don’t even get financial support fom my kids dad) independent, beautiful, funny, smart and talented single mother who didn’t want to stay in an abusive relationship so i left even though we share a child

[In_Trance]

Fucking a patient violates the code of conduct.
You're definitely a train wreck or you wouldn't be seeing him and you wouldn't be posting about it anonymously online.
Take some friendly advice and quit while you're ahead

[Asker]

Did i fuck him? No. Do i have any intentions of fucking him? No. Am i seeing him? No, only at our sessions. Am i going to be his patient forever? No. So what is wrong with me asking online if those are signs that he likes me? Maybe i just want to know for later when i’m not his patient anymore if he will want to go out with me. You should stop making assumptions about people and rather ask questions so you get fact, instead of making shit up in your head. I would never compromise anyones job or career, but you wouldn’t know that about me since you don’t know me, yet you still felt like you have the right to judge and insult me. Good job ;)

[Asker]

Oh and one more thing you smart guy. Did you ever ask where i come from? Because in Germany there is no rule that you can’t date a patient, sure it’s unprofessional but it doesn’t violate the code of conduct, it is allowed. Plus, how stupid do you think i am? Do you really think i would want to go out with him while he is still treating me? How awkward would that be? Inform yourself first before you insilt other people based on beliefs that you made up :)

[In_Trance]

Don't ask loaded questions. You don't want the answer

[Asker]

I never asked whay you think about me, I never asked you to insult me. That was all you, don’t put that on me. I don’t even insult people who deserve it because that’s not how i roll, that’s how you roll