How to let a guy know that you like him despite he liked you first but you were not ready for him back then?

[Fraulein1700]

Hello all! I'm looking for some helpful advice.

I met this guy through a friend who thought we would match up nicely since we shared similar hobbies, likings and he had a well established stable career.

I met him in person a few months ago while he was staying in town at my friend's house for a few days. My friend's mom let me also stay a few days since I was in the transition of moving to a new place (really stressful - I was treated very poorly where I used to live)

I got to meet him and all, and I think he was curious about me. He was more the quiet type but we spoke a lot of mutual interests.

He did seem to like me. When he had a glass too much, he referred as if there was a love triangle with my friend, him and me; while he looked deeply at my eyes

Fast forward; I feel that I have finally healed from my old problems (it has been a long process). I have my life more together now, my emotions too, more handled.

I'd like to know him better, you know what I mean. I find him cute as well.

I don't want to seem overwhelming. Since we've met, he did snap me semi often randomly at first and what not. I did interact but not too eager since I had a lot going on. Last month, I asked him some questions and month he offered to call me but I didn't see his message fast enough and lost the opportunity

Recently, I asked for his advice on something (he knows better that field) and said texting was better since he was busy traveling due to work but he'd let me know when he's back in Cali.

He says that he is busy, and I believe him although at the same time I wonder if maybe he isn't that interested in me or not too responsive since it's been a while since back then? Sometimes it takes a few days for him to respond to snap, but it might be me. I might be overthinking insecure right now.

Any ideas on how I could gently tell him that I like him and would like to know him better? Comments on the situation?

thank you all!

Updates

1 y

We met in late January-early February

[OneViewpoint]

You blew it. The timing wasn't right. You gave him a cold vibe. He read that and moved on. The moment is gone. You weren't ready. Life doesn't wait for you. Let it be. Woulda could've shoulda. Learn from it. Next time seize the moment. If you try to rekindle this he's not gonna trust you. He'll be looking for any behavior that may indicate you're not worth the investment of his time and money. And you won't get the benefit of the doubt.

[serious]

Well, it would really depend on if he still has feelings for you the same or if he has lost interest. If you think the signs are still positive then you should go ahead and tell him that you like him.

[EmmaMary]

Simply ask/beg him to give you a damn good fucking... Problem solved.

[Fraulein1700]

A little on the vulgar side.. but I get your point..

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there! 😊 It sounds like you're in an intriguing situation. Since you've both shown some interest, you can try being honest but subtle. Next time you're chatting, maybe mention how you enjoyed the time spent with him before and would love to catch up again. A simple, “I realized I really enjoy talking to you and would love to get to know you better,” can go a long way. Let things flow naturally without putting too much pressure on either side. Sending a sincere, light-hearted message can open the door for deeper connection. Good luck! 💖

[strateguy632]

Use the network to reconnect

[Bricealan]

@Fraulein1700 All been through that.