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You are a typical woman. You want a risk free solution to getting what you want. So you communicate indirectly and get pissed off when a man doesn't respond the way you want him to. Please allow me to cut through the bullshit. That risk free solution doesn't exist.
So you can either...
It really is that simple. You just don't want to hear it.
I'm not afraid of telling him how I feel. I've been in multiple situations in the past where the guy liked me, I told him that I was also interested and then because I was too bold they pretended like nothing happened.
Right. You're not afraid to tell him, you're afraid of the consequences. Like I said either take control or wait for him to maybe do it someday, or wonder what if forever. Welcome to a man's world.
Why are you making sound like it's problematic to be a male? Men can also take the first step, but rarely do because they too are afraid of the same thing.
Because making the first move is the ONLY option open to males. Most of us don't have the option to sit around giving off vague hints of flirting to get women to approach us. Eye flutters and hair flips don't generally work for men to get women to ask us for a date. Look at yourself, stuck and paralyzed with fear. Men can ONLY approach and risk rejection. And no, men have stopped making the first move because they no longer feel women are worth approaching based on experience not because they are afraid of you.
If we take a step, cops get called and false sexual assault charges come. Women love attention
Exactly
This is one of the most passive aggressive rants I have read in a while lol.
It is a completely normal part of human behavior for both sexes to communicate indirectly.
Same reason most people don't stand up during a work meeting and declare that they are headed to the bathroom to take a massive dump.
@Zylos men still approach women. Even after a boat load of rejections.
@Zylos most men do. The ones who don't are loners, and OP will end up the same way if she isn't assertive with her feelings
@Zylos ,
Well good for you being in touch with your feminine side. But no, most men don't communicate indirectly with and hope the message gets across in a work meeting then react with passive aggression when their coworkers don't get their subtle hints about the project being off schedule. I don't know what men you hang out with or how you get things done at work but, your fantasy is not the way it works for most men.
Men ≠ mind readers
Good luck going up to women and asking if you can stick your penis in their vagina, mate, hahaha
"Feminine side" lol
It's called basic social skills, and I agree that indirect communication can be frustrating AF, but it's not some arbitrary thing women invented. Everyone does it to some extent.
@Zylos thanks for the objectification. I love that!
@Zylos your social skills does not include assertiveness?
@Zylos I'll cut the theatrics.
Lets put gender aside.
Person A loves Person B. B doesn't know about it. A confesses to B. B either likes A back or they have somebody else/not ready for a relationship/only sees A as friend. In all scrnarios, A gets the answer
@Zylos if a man had asked the same question, y'all would have eaten him alive like a pack of hyenas
@Zylos ,
And your poor logic bites you in the ass again...
"@anon1903 Hahaha, no she fucking won't. The reason men tend to make a move and women tend not to is that women don't NEED to make a move. "
Forget what question you're responding to buddy? This is a woman complaining that a guy she likes WILL NOT make a move on her while never once considering that maybe he doesn't want to. She's not inundated with attention from men she wants. And more and more there is butthurt whining from women about "where have all the good men gone" or "why aren't men approaching women any more". So your assertion that women don't need to approach men is out of touch withe the reality women are complaining about. Including the asker of this question.
Women are obviously in NOT higher demand. You're delusional just like women. Are lot of them are in their 30's and single and wondering what happened. Well, you're not 20 any more. You're 33. And a lot of guys have seen enough to know they just aren't that interested in more of the same baggage.
This isn't even a gender war. It's about one person being too cowardly to tell their crush they like them
"This is a woman complaining that a guy she likes WILL NOT make a move on her while never once considering that maybe he doesn't want to."
Where did she complain, buddy? She is asking for advice, and you're jumping down her throat with your weird fucking hangups.
Also, you are completely deluded if you think men are in higher demand than women. I encourage you to ask a single woman in her 30s or 40s to show you her dating app inbox.
@OneViewpoint
Show me where I was complaining. I just asked for advice. The man I'm seeing knows exactly how to show his interest, but because of other factors we haven't been on the same page. I now want to change that. That's all. No need to make something more challenging than it already it.
@Zylos Thank you for defending me.
@Zylos I'm a woman. I'm defending men here because this isn't a gender thing. If this was gay or lesbian situation, I'd have said the same
@Zylos she asked for advice and we told her to be assertive. End of story
OP, if you really like him, why can't you approach him?
Just say you like him more than a friend, it's that simple. You'll get a definite answer
Rejection SUCKS. I have been rejected a few times. But at least I don't wallow in self pity and what ifs. At least ik they didn't like me. Ik I'm free of regrets.
@Zylos you can check my profile. It's filled with complaints, most of them target men.
I'm a feminist for heaven's sake.
However, assertiveness is also a part of an independent woman. Men have tons of flaws, thousands of them, but that doesn't mean they're ALWAYS wrong. That's dumb. If I say that, I'll be a misandrist not feminist
@anon1903 Whatever. This reaction here is totally over the top. OP asks for advice on how to check whether there is mutual attraction, and you guys lay into her like she is somehow responsible for all men's sexual frustrations or whatever. It is ridiculous. You're reading stuff into her post that she never wrote.
@Zylos she can do that by being direct with her feelings.
@Zylos or even more simple, asking this guy out on a date. That will disclose whether he's attracted to her or not
Assuming he's around your age and not a complete klutz with women...
Flirt, laugh, touch, and make sexual jokes/innuendos. Invade his space. Set the tone for sexual tension and physical contact. Do your best to let him know you're open to his advancements.
If he doesn't advance, then you need to do it.
If both you and him can't do even that, then unfortunately you'll have to be a big girl and use your words. Just know you can't really fuck it up. He already knows what he wants from you, you just need to hope you're both there for the same reasons.
He knows whether he wants just a fling or a long-term thing?
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Put on your big girl pants and use your words. Anything less is a game. If you’re into games, then it doesn’t really matter if he catches your innuendos and insinuations. Does it? If you want people to know something, you tell them. That’s how grown folks behave. Children play the silly games you’re angling at.
Smile at him. Sit next to him. Talk to him. Break the touch barrier - touch his hand, arm, or head if the moment allows. Laugh at his jokes. Share some personal (but not overly personal) details about yourself, especially funny ones. If you are someplace where there is food and or drinks, bring him something.
It's really not that difficult. Make him feel seen and included. The majority of men are invisible to women and get zero attention, so it won't take a lot to stand out.
Smile and when he's talking to you or not. Talk back to him with your eyes they just need to to be telling him something at all time if he doesn't know what they are saying. He will feel what they are saying
If you're 36-45 and going out with a guy and he KNOWS that you haven't done that in a while then he knows you like him.
Well keep waiting aorind until he finds someone else
Stop playing games and let him know. It's really that simple. Men appreciate directness.
Ok correct me if I’m wrong but doesn’t a date usually indicate to one another that you have some form of attraction to one another? That’s what I thought it meant otherwise you wouldn’t agree to going on a date w someone. If so then it should be obvious that yes I like you. Or is this one of those situations where he said do you want to hang out Friday night, go bowling or have dinner w a few drinks. But you’re calling it a date? Which means you’re leading the readers on to believe that this is a date date?
I think it's a date, but lines can be so blurry nowadays
Just show sincere interest in what he has to say. If it feels natural, touch him on the arm or hand. When you are walking, put your hand through his arm. Look directly into his eyes and smile. Since you like him, if you don’t let nervousness suppress your natural instincts, you’ll do just fine.
Pay a lot of attention to him and be interested in what he says.
As a general rule I find, after a woman has established 1 You're single 2. Your approx net asset backing 3. Your approx cash flow, then usually they prefer to talk about themselves.
We do like getting the feeling that the woman has respect for us.
You can show interest in a natural way by getting physically close, by touching him on the arm, etc. If you are dining, extend your arms across the table. Take his hand. This is all pretty natural when there is mutual interest, you shouldn't have to make an effort.
If you want to be kissed, get close and turn your face upward to his. Or just say "kiss me".
The best thing you can do is just flat out telling him. Guys aren't very good in picking up the subtle hints woman try to communicate. Men rather hear straight up that you like him! He will appreciate that if he likes you aswell
Just come right out with it. No fancy, flowery words. No pretense. You can say something like “(his name here), I see you more than a friend” and go from there. 😊
Guys are pretty obtuse. You may be better off straight up telling him. Although the fact that you’re out on a date with him should be a pretty big clue…
What are the other factors why you guys aren’t on the same page yet?
*Sigh*
Here we go again.
Guys don't respond well to subtle hints. Just say, 'I like you a lot.' And be done with it. It's that simple.
For starters there is no sure way to do it. Anything you can do without telling him can also be used by cockteasers.
You could try things like stroking his hair, pointing out that you are single, press your breasts against him while looking him in the eyes and smiling.
Mind you that women who have zero interest in a guy do this too.
I have never played those games. If he doesn't have enough going on upstairs to figure out the bleeding obvious, he is not someone I will be interested in anyway.
Just flat out tell him. Us men can be dumb at times. We think girls like us when they don't, and we don't think they like us when they do.
It's a genetic flaw.
Eye contact that lasts 0.5 seconds too long, ‘forgetting’ personal space exists, and casually mentioning you’re single—the ancient art of ‘I’m interested but make you say it first.’
if you're going on a date, he already knows you at least like him... you are old enough to be more straight forward. just tell him. guys are dumb and don't pick up on subliminal messages. they just don't
Sneak up quietly behind him & give him a surprise reach around. Don't let him reciprocate this once & get him off in a place or situation he'd never expect
It depends on the person. If he's the sort that can read your mind through quick glances, do that. If he can't or he's unsure, just bloody tell him. You're not 12.
I don’t understand why you’re afraid to tell him
Clear and effective communication is how to get what you want in real life. Playing stupid games may or may not get you the results you are looking for.
Liking someone is very vague. But what do u want to do with those feelings?
What does one usually want when liking someone?
That’s your question to answer
Sorry, that was meant to be rhetorical. The answer is pretty obvious.
Games. Some woman never learn.
Men like clarity. Save the games for when you know him well.
Depend on guy , some of em can be really clueless ( inexperienced ones) so u have no choice but being direct.
why do girls always want to avoid the one most sensible and effective thing there is?
You don't. Just use words. It is what they're for.
Why not just tell him? Why do women feel the need to be so cryptic and expect guys to read their minds?
I've scared off guys by telling them outright about liking them.
Men go through the same thing all the time. Why do women believe it's somehow different for them. If a guy is interested, he will respond positively. If he's not, he won't. It's no different for us guys.
I had a guy tell me that he liked me and I told him that I also liked him. Then he vanished. So this is not always the case. Maybe we were too young then. Hence the hesitation now.
date with a "friend"
Are you proving there's really no such thing as "just friends", after all?
At least for me it is better to just come out and tell him. Guys ( or at least me ) don't take hints very well.
You look at him, blink twice, and wait for him to read your mind apparently.😆
I wish it was that easy. 😁
All women do apparently.
So if you were in my shoes, what would you do?
Well I don't know him so I don't know that he's worth it. So I don't know what advice I should give you.
But putting myself in his shoes, I would just want her to demonstrate connection. So few women want to put themselves out there. He's already going out with you, in my opinion the hard part is done. If you're just going to pretend for eachother then what is the point of dating in the first place. If she doesn't show me she digs me over other guys (assuming she's dating other guys, because most women are) then why would I think she she's me as anything more than just another guy. And it doesn't have to a lot, it doesn't even have to be anything physical even. It can be as simple as a good conversation. I guess this is why your question confuses me. How is it hard to show what you're feeling? Rejection? That's part of the game. If you don't want to be honest why are you dating him?
You would think that hanging out and having a good conversation and being interested in the conversation is enough, but often times it isn't. You have to do more for them to understand.
By making very strong eye contact with him and the way you move your body will show him that you're interested without saying it
Wear a backless dress and rub yourself up against him. It worked for my girlfriend lol
Give him a wink. 💕
Just tell him.
The movements and looks show everything.
Directly communicate like an adult
Just tell him ffs
Just tell him. That's the mature thing to do.
No other way than telling him.
You can’t.
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