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Asked this woman out at my gym, she said no because she has a boyfriend. We stayed gym buddies since.

Then all of a sudden a couple months later she said she was breaking up with her boyfriend and wanted to take me up on my offer. After the breakup up though things took a turn. She admitted she has interest in me, likes me, but needs time. Since then things have been hit or miss. She doesn’t really text or respond (I barely text her now), no social media interactions on my stuff but does on other people’s.

Yet when I see her in person (usually at her work, she works at that gym) she’s happy to see me, could talk to me all day and does text fit a bit after I leave but then goes silent again. She says she’s getting me a Christmas present and wants to exchange on Christmas Eve after work.

I get she probably needs time, her ex cheated on her and from what I can tell was manipulative (she hasn’t really opened up about it to me). But I guess by mind is split. Part of me is saying her actions speak louder than words (not communicating, she does say she’s horrible at texting). The other part says she just broke up with her ex and is probably trying to work through that and keep me and the situation separate.

What are your opinions?

It's not like you expect your relationship with the current boyfriend to fail or something. But I mean you secretly keep in your mind 1-2 guys as "backup" in case your boyfriend leaves you or the relationship doesn't go anywhere. Maybe these guys are your exes or someone who you rejected (just because you have a boyfriend) but still has some feelings for you. Could be close friends.

You don't cheat. You just secretly target them in your mind and see them as a potential lover. This is a kind of self protection. Maybe you treat them a bit nicer than other guys. Then if you break up, you open up to them if they're available and still interested (and not jump right to them).

Also do you think it's right to do so?