Girls do you have a kind of "backup" boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

It's not like you expect your relationship with the current boyfriend to fail or something. But I mean you secretly keep in your mind 1-2 guys as "backup" in case your boyfriend leaves you or the relationship doesn't go anywhere. Maybe these guys are your exes or someone who you rejected (just because you have a boyfriend) but still has some feelings for you. Could be close friends.

You don't cheat. You just secretly target them in your mind and see them as a potential lover. This is a kind of self protection. Maybe you treat them a bit nicer than other guys. Then if you break up, you open up to them if they're available and still interested (and not jump right to them).

Also do you think it's right to do so?

Yes, I have someone

No, I don't do that

[Guy13]

They have a back-up crush that feeds their emotionalism if the man at home does not. They eventually sleep with that and may leave the other guy for that MISSING emotional connection.

[Adaeva]

Typically girls will find a boyfriend and immediately look for an upgrade. When she is certain of the upgrade, she will pounce. Then she will look for another upgrade. If she can't get an upgrade, she will settle for who she has.

[Sparks32]

You will get a player like yourself that will pump and dumb you then you will have to climb that hypergamy ladder all the way from the bottom again. Unless you have hit the wall then it's game over and you will most likely be alone for the rest of your life. I hope you wake up in time for your own sake.

[Adaeva]

@Sparks32 I tell it like it. You however, make ridiculous assumptions.

[Sparks32]

Are you a typically girl? Are you speaking about yourself? What other Assumptions did I make? I tell it like it is. I'm not telling you this to put you down I just have a lot of female friends in their 40's that will most likely never find someone. Men and women need to treat each other with more honesty and respect and trading up is not respectful, honoring the commitment you made to one another is.

[Adaeva]

@Sparks32 You assumption that I have sex is false.

[Sparks32]

I assumed you will one day. You most likely don't have sex at 14 years of age but I'm not assuming eitherway.

[Adaeva]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Nikki1989]

No, dealing with one man is more than enough.

[Akam93]

Not really.