My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, which doesn't seem long but we spend everyday together. It is a very healthy attachment and a healthy relationship and my first serious relationship where I felt like I was being treated well. My previous boyfriend cheated on me, and my current boyfriend knows that.
This spring break (which is 4 months away), he planned a trip to Cancun with a bunch of other guys. I am not ignorant to the immaturity of dudes and my boyfriend if the only guy not in a relationship. What makes it worse was that I was going to go too but it turned into a guys trip, and I got uninvited, when the only other guy in a relationship became single... which prompted me to think this trip was going to just turn into them all getting with girls.
Before we were official there were a few instances where I knew he lied to me, and I am his first girlfriend so I'm trying to be honest but cautious. I am also trying to not self-sabotage. I mentioned to him my concerns in terms of him being the only taken guy there. In Cancun. for spring break. I am trying to organize a girls trip but regardless of my plans the anxiety is killing me.
Is there any thing I can do or say to him to be less anxious? Or is there anything I should expect him to do to make me feel more at ease? I would want to know if he cheats, and I don't want to breakup with him just to avoid this anxiety, but it has taken me so long to be better at trusting men I am close to in my life. Obviously if he wants to cheat then good riddance... but I truly imagine spending a good chunk, if not all, of my life with him.
concerns to be taken as controlling or toxic or something of the like
