Boyfriend going on vacation without me?

[TheShyGirl]

My boyfriend of just over a year told me the other day that he's planning a vacation (a 7-day cruise this summer) with his guy friends. He didn't invite me, and when I asked, he said he just wanted to relax with his friends and not have to worry about me. I'm obviously offended that he doesn't want to take me on vacation with him, but am I overreacting?

[AskAlthea]

Well, he's going to hang out with your friends. It's like if you and your girlfriends went to get your nails done and to the spa and then shopping or a night out, would you want your boyfriend there? Probably not. And by not worrying about you, he means it in the best way possible, because he wants to spend time with his friends without worrying about are you having a good time. It sounds like you would like to go on a trip with your boyfriend, perhaps you would feel better if the two of you planned a trip for two in the future.

[Cmasterson]

Yes, my boyfriend is going on a kayaking trip next month for over a week, with the guys. And i'm the type of girlfriend that hates when he's away from me, but instead of being a butt I just told him it sounds like fun, do I want him to go? No not really but I think its fair to him. However I told him I would like to go on a trip with him after and we agreed to that. So perhaps ask him to go somewhere after. BUT I don't see why the trip has to do with "worrying about you" as if you're something negative lol.

[ekc8295]

Why are you offended? It's normal to want to do things without your partner sometimes. Some people do only want to experience big things, like vacations, with their partner whenever possible, but some people prefer time away. Both are normal and healthy when addressed properly. If your relationship is good aside from this, then I'd say you are overreacting.

[truthbeknown]

This is just time for the guys. It will happen early in relationships like yours unit they become more serious. Even though you are a full year in, he is still at that age where his friends are tremendously important in his life.

[JohnM82]

Yes you are. Think about it, it's a vacation with the bros. Imagine if you had a girls night out and one of your girlfriends brought their boyfriend along... not cool.

[00ellis]

Yes you are over-reacting. The world doesn't revolve around you and you are suffocating him. The narcism and ego is strong with you padawan.

[writing_essays]

Of course you are over reacting. His friends probably don't want girls on a guys only night out.

[Mr-Kabuki]

sometimes guys need to have time with other guys. its normal. im sure you two will go on a vacation yourselves some day. dont sweat it

[Anonymous]

Your future ex boyfriend?

[Kitten967]

Guys need guy time.