Search Results: dating someone for a year

28F, only thing I know for certain is I have anxiety & my self esteem could be better. But, nothing too terrible that makes me incapable of finding a LTR. I’ve been on and off dating apps for years, I don’t get how they don’t work for me as it’s known women have it easier & people tell me I’m attractive (not just family/friends). I have to use the apps bc I never get approached in person, I get the matches but in the end it just doesn’t work out. The last time I saw someone I was 23 & that only lasted for a few months. It felt like settling & I’ve become even pickier now. I don’t really have that much of a sex drive but that isn’t something a guy can sense right off the bat so I don’t think that’s it. It’s like I wonder if I’m ready to date but ffs I’m almost 30 that’s odd if I’m not. I met up with someone for the first time in almost 2 years last week & I didn’t even stay for the whole time, I left after maybe 15 min bc I wasn’t feeling it (even though chatting went well on the app), I had a long day, wanted to leave before the drinks arrived since I didn’t want him to get charged & most of all I was worried he was gay (by his voice). I usually video chat before but moving fwd that’s non-negotiable. Oddly enough I still don’t think it’s my fault for being single this long, yes I’ve tried counseling/medication & it was a bust. Can an almost 30 yr old woman date while being anxious, insecure, reserved & close to being maybe on the asexual spectrum?

I 23F have been with 32M since November 2022. His last relationship was with someone one year older than me which should have been first my red flag.

I have introduced boyfriend to a handful of friends. He becomes so drunk and high (unbeknownst to me) that he essentially becomes mute! If he does manage to muster out a few words his speech is very slurred. I had to carry him home to bed and would pop back out to continue the night on with my own friends on both occassions. boyfriend has never seen the issue with either night and doesn’t understand how it would embarrass me.

My friends were more than surprised when I revealed he was 32 and they were very quick to say he comes off as very young and immature. The last thing I want to do is introduce him to my immediate family out of fear he’ll embarrass me AGAIN!

His house is filthy and he’s spoilt! Mummy and daddy have paid his bills and insurances up until this August. When it came to paying his first electricity bill and car insurance renewal he was none the wiser and needed guided help. He has a degree in IT and software development.

He has been driving more than several years and inherited his car basically brand new. His dad always did the insurance and brought it to the garage for repairs and paid for them. Mummy has even offered to clean the house he also inherited several times but thankfully, boyfriend says no.

I asked him to help me clean his house one Sunday after I woke two hours early to get started and he give me the “you’re not my mum” and “stop annoying me” speech yet suggested another time I come out a day early to clean while he worked. The house is filthy, destroyed in mould, and smells of damp. Instead of buying new pillows for the bed, he wants to try and wash them first (despite being covered by mould and pillows being cheap).

Even when we text, he types like a child. He’s 32 but it’s still ‘bby’ not ‘baby’, ‘meh’ instead of ‘me’, and the conversation isn’t a whole pile of stimulating typically.