I could not beleive that my almost to be fiance lied about such a thing? What shall I do?

[butterfly113]

I ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we are thinking of serious commitment. i trusted him and told him everything i was so honest and i thought he did as well.. yet i discovered lately that his father who passed away was married to another woman and there was a kidwhen i saw it randomly on my facebook. i was shocked that he hided such a thing and got so confused whether i should confront him or not but at the end i decided to do so but made up a story about it to not look as if i was stalking his family and said that some of my friends told me that he had a step brother.. he at first said that it was true , then he denied and then said to me that "Every conversation has its timing and place " and then out of nowhere he changed the subject.. and right before we went home i told him that what i hate most about any person is lying and he said what i hate most is someone accusing me of lying or talking about my family s reputation... what shall i do

[Zenpanda]

You keep it to yourself.
He didn't lie, he kept it to himself probably for good reasons.
Some things people don't want to talk about, not even with the one they love, at least not until they feel ready to talk about it.
Even the most devoted couples can have their own secrets as long as the secret isn't harmful to their partner.
Not wanting to talk about what sounds like his father having a child from an affair is solid reason for some resentment which he hasn't dealt with.
This has no effect on your relationship with him.
I'd apologize and give him the option that if he wants to talk about it with you, he can, but there is no need or pressure to do so.

[Zenpanda]

Also I'd like to mention that the thing you hate most is lying and yet you lied right to his face about how you found out.

[butterfly113]

I didn't want him to feel that i m stalking but got surprised when i knew. if we want to have serious thig there would be no things to hide cuz i ll be soon one of his family... its not like a secret he should keeps forever like what if someday that woman came it would feel even worse.. i whenevr we talk, tell him about everything like cards on the table i was honest but he wasn't

[spartan55]

@butterfly113
So it's okay for YOU to lie, but not him...😂 😂

[exitseven]

He might be embarrassed about this.,. I sort of had this happen to me. Maybe he was afraid they you would not like him.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

You have no idea if this is something that is extremely painful for him to talk about. Also you are getting pissed that he never told, yet you went and done something even more fucked up and is considered illegal and that is stalking.

He is right everything has a time and right now this is not something he is ready to talk about.

Also Stop being a fucking creep stalking people fucking stalker

[Opinion Owner]

You also say you don't want secrets and you are pissed and claiming he lied. Yet you are actually the one who lied. You lied about stalking him and his family, so are you going to own up to the truth? You have no right to be pissed at him when your own behaviour is fucking disgusting

[Nikki1989]

It is rare to find a man that doesn't lie. If you can find an honest man, he is a keeper.

[butterfly113]

Sad but true 😔

[NotInterestedSorry]

He didn't lie though.

[Bklynbadboy12]

@Nikki1989 Wait we not gonna act like she didn't just admit she lied to him too! she's mad cause he lied but she made up a story and lied to him as well!

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Maybe he didn't care about his step bro , why don't you ask him and take his perspective don't assume

[Anonymous]

So what you're saying is you lied to him as well and you're going to try to claim moral authority? 😆

[shortster]

You should dump him and find someone else

[Anonymous]

He shouldn't marry you you're too dumb

[butterfly113]

Haha please chill you took it to personally you even kept thinkin about it for two days more than i did lol and if someone should be questionning about the other person it should be me not him. if i lied that was because i didn't know how to confront him like i wouldn't just say hey i just viewed a post on my fb and the pic is of a woman next to your dad and people saying you were great couple might his soul Rip