Ok. So a guy been friends with that I hadn't seen in years added me to Facebook 2 years ago. As soon as he found out I was single, he started liking my fb pic selfies&met up with me. We have been kinda hanging out/talking since then which was back in April. He's a really nice guy, just super shy and very kept to himself but never looks away from me when we are talking. He's only had 1 girlfriend in his life. I told him that our mutual friend asked if we are dating and all he did was laugh. He let me touch his beard and always gives me hugs and he is not one to hug anyone. Now another guy I was friends with in high school found me on Facebook and started talking to me in messenger but right away started bombarding me messages containing "xoxo" and heart emoji and told me I'm beautiful, etc so I told him I'm seeing someone, then he asks me if we are actually dating so I didn't know what to say to that because truly is I don't know cause when I told shy guy what if I were to kiss him he was like "nope" but had a blushing smirk on his face so I dunno but now dude #2 is married according to Facebook but he said he's not married anymore yet his wife it still shows married to him and he seemed to have hid it from his profile... pretty shady. I told shy guy about it so he knows I'm not out to be a hoe&blocked Mr. "I'm not married but really am". Why are guys like this and what do I do about shy guy (I'll just call him mark)? Even shy guys (mark) best friend introduces me as "mark's (fake name to protect his real name) girlfriend to their friends and doesn't correct them lol, doesn't say anything lol guys are strange lol. If a male can help me makes sense of this situation that would be great, thanks.
Why, just why&what to do with a super shy guy?
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Shy guys aren't complicated. All you have to do is be clear and direct if you want something to happen between you two. For example: directly ask him if he will be your boyfriend.
I bugged him and said "so can we make it facebook official?" To which he said no and I said I was joking but he doesn't care that I posted pics of him and I together on facebook and he always says "sure" enthusiastically when i ask if we can take a pic together but he is also the type that likes to keep a low profile so I get it lol. I don't want to scare him off, but I did call him boyfriend jokingly one time and he didn't say anything lol
In that case he might just think of you as a close friend. But I still think you should honestly tell him how you feel. Without jokes or joking mannerisms. Tell him you want to be more than friends. Tell him you are serious. And if he still says no, then you will just have to accept the rejection and move on.
Thanks, that is very helpful