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I very rarely get matches. After 3 weeks on hinge I got 0 matches. After 3 weeks on Hily I got 12 matches but only one replied but is always too "busy" to talk to me and she lives in a foreign country. On Bumble I got about 5 matches in a month and only 2 messaged me, both only wanted friendship. On Badoo I got 10 matches, only 4replied, 2 were from a foreign country and one was only there to sell nudes and the other only replied once then ghosted. On average I get maybe 1-3 matches a week on any dating app but 0 replies. This pattern persists regardless if it's a casual app like Tinder or a more serious app like POF or OKCupid. I always introduce myself by saying something relevant to their profile. (ie: Woah you're in Korea in that pic? Awesome I lived there for a year myself! What year did you visit?) Alas my messages are always left on read or unread. On the rare occasions that I do receive a reply it's the first and the last or the girl turns out to be a content seller. On even rarer occasions she reveals to me that she's only looking for friends and that I seemed nice. Then she follows up by telling me how great I am and how I'll easily find someone great. Spoiler alert... I never do. I can count on one hand how many actual dates I've gotten and only one ever became a relationship. This pattern is the same when I meet people in person as well.

My profile typically looks as follows:

About me:

I'm a history buff, an artist, and a gamer and I love cooking and creating YouTube videos.

I'm very open-minded, introverted, nerdy, intellectual, honest, kind, and polite and I am a great conversationalist. I love long and meaningful discussions!

Attributes:

Sign: Taurus

Religion: Agnostic

Age: 31

Ethnicity: Black

Height: 6'2"

Children: None

Smoke: No

Drink: Socially

Looking for: Dating/Serious relationship

Some people have “ribbing” yet teasing attitudes towards other people particularly of opposite gender and/or people they are interested in. It’s like teasing your crush to show confidence and/or get them to open up their more “real” side. It can also be about testing people by playing hard to get to see if they can “handle you”.

Women often do this to men to as quasi shit test to see if they are smart ass enough to deal with their sassiness. Men do this to women as a sign of confidence and/or to give off a slight asshole vibe because they know many girls like that.

But I noticed this is more common in some parts of the country (and world) than others. Los Ángeles and New York City are notorious for this.

Personally I never liked it. Unless the girl hits the absolute right teasing chemistry and I’m in the mood to banter it’s doesn’t get me turned on. Different if I’ve already known her for a bit and we are already well acquainted. But if I’m interested I am not looking to play faux asshole just to create a jibe to be more interesting. Rather have a real conversation with maybe some practical joking about other things besides each other.

But I think some men and women always start out with joking and slightly hard to get attitude when they like someone. It also their way of avoiding being boring at all costs.

So did men do this in response to what women want or vice versa?