So I turned 29 years old this year and I've never had a girlfriend and have never really dated anyone in my life. I know that I'm a late bloomer as most people have been in a couple of relationships by the time they near their 30s. Through out my 20s I've come to realize that the reason why I never dated anyone was because i had a fear of intimacy. Luckily by coming to this realization I have started to slowly put myself out there and am going against my fear/conditioning that has been keeping me from meeting women and being in a relationship.
As a man I have many great qualities. I'm tall, attractive, have a great personality, am funny, hard working etc. The problem that I face in getting close to women is my lack of experience. I'm bad at flirting, building sexual tension, and I've realized that I have been really passive in my approach.
This year I started hanging out with a girl that I've been texting for a while. The first month or two of hanging out here and there went well. All the plans that we made we followed through with them. However, after the 2nd month I realized that she started taking longer to reply and being more flaky than usual. I saw this as a sign that she was started to lose interest in me so I stopped trying to make plans or even text her. The times we hung out I noticed that she was throwing me multiple indicators of interest but because I was passive and didn't flirt back or make any moves I'm sure that this pushed her away.
As previously mentioned i know that my lack of experience has really been hindering me from getting close to a female. I would just like some advice on how to approach this situation the next time that I hang out with a female that I am romantically interested in. Advice on dating/flirting/ building sexual tension/ etc would be helpful. Thanks a lot :)
