What advice do you have for someone who has lost their child and is really depressed?

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CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Grief sucks ass. It’s a heavy weight that burdens you and when everything in your life reminds you of your kid, I know that only makes it worse. They say “time heals all wounds” and it sounds pretentious as all hell, but it does kind of ring true. Wallow in the sadness, make sure to cry about it and let it out, don’t just let it sit there in your body forever. And when you’re done, I personally find that hobbies make for pretty good distractions to help time go by faster, I’d strongly recommend something creative to help you process your feelings if you want that to help you along, but they also give you a product for all your time spent on it which can be a nice reward, even if you’re not using it to process your emotions. My deepest condolences for your loss, and best wishes for your future as you heal.

butterly248 · Accepted Answer

You'll heal with time

Mr_twoface · Accepted Answer

Everyone mourns differently and there is no particular advice one can receive which is universal. However, as a friend of someone who is undergoing this traumatic experience, one can show a lot of compassion, understanding, patients, be there for them, make the effort without wanting anything in return, pray for them, support them, talk to them, take baby steps to cheer them up, and help them in any way possible to overcome this process and heal.

DrPepper12 · Accepted Answer

I've had this problem. Give space but continue to check in AFTER the weeks after death for over a year. FORCE them to go out with you for a walk, coffee, whatever

Dongie · Answer

Man, I have a close young friend, the son of a friend, he just lost a son about to be 3 months old just over a month ago. His second child. He's nineteen. Just last night he went to Dallas with a couple younger friends, 17 year olds. He went to sleep in the back seat and a shooting occurred away from where they were parked. His dad's not sure of all the facts but it seems to have been one of the 17 year old boys action. But he, even knowing nothing having been left sleeping is the only adult of the three. He's being held on quarter million bond. This kid is a Christian lad who is a very good kid. Not that it matters he is black.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would tell them their child is in heaven and they can talk to them through prayer any time they want but that their child would not want them to be sad and would want them to have new children. And I would say because their child is in heaven, their child never died, they just relocated to another dimension.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

A good therapist... friends who don't give advice, just are there to support emotionally... and don't hide emotions... they are painful AF... and time is needed to let the little one go... I'm not sure if there is bigger pain than this...

ohsheeT · Answer

That's something that they're going to have to go through themselves the only thing that you can do is be there for them in every way possible. I would think that she's going to take a lot of time.

Wausguy85 · Answer

Take your time Feel it if you need to talk to someone definitely do it I unfortunately didn't have that luxury as my partner fell pregnant shortly after we lost our 1st then suffered mental health issues and three kids later I am just going through the motions and not feeling my complete self so take it from me definitely take your time and feel it talk about it and if there is something that you enjoy doing that makes you feel good do that too

dustybiker2 · Answer

No advice. They have to go through the process to start to heal. You have to feel it all to process it.  Just let them know you are there for them to listen when they need to talk.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

Don't do that. It makes life boring and miserable.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Seek therapy it does help, providing if you want it to do so.

boobliker · Answer

stay drunk for a long time

BIZARRE_TRUTH · Answer

I would say pray to God. Pray and pray.

DonVitoCorleone · Answer

It's a very difficult situation

DonFredoCorleone · Answer

God bless you

In_Trance · Answer

Seek therapy

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