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So long story short, my mom knows a lady that’s hiring whom she happens to be friend with and works with and she was telling me she would help me out to try and get me in. Then an hour later when I was asking her for details and an address she started yelling at me and acting all mad for nothing! The she said she doesn’t want me screwing her over with her friend! She also says to me if I’m gonna know how to get to her friends office myself.

my boyfriend is a good guy and wants to get married but I need a steady job in order to do that to be able to afford house/ monthly bills…he an I have been together for 3 years now.

Another weird thing my mom did was ask in a pushy way for my boyfriend to move into my moms house with us (the 3 of us) and was trying to make him rent out his condo…he and I hve made it clear that we want our own place later on just the 2 of us..

so why does my mom act like this? Why does she offer to help and then start yelling at me and being all crazy towards me? Is she jealous of my relationship? Or does she fear me moving out?

30F and I don’t think I’ll ever shake my core belief that any decently presentable lady has no prob finding a man, a pretty girl well forget about it. I’m very reserved, I’ve always been but was *friendlier* in my early twenties, now I’m borderline antisocial. I always blamed growing up overweight as the reason why I didn’t get attention from guys/wasn’t popular, I lost weight in my early twenties and have maintained my weight loss since (still slim thick). Again, this weight loss didn’t change the attention I got from guys & I was a bit more sociable back then.

I’m told I’m attractive (from all kinds of people for most of my life & not only family/friends) & the only times attractive guys take initiative are on dating apps. And apps are absolute trash as we know, guys I’d find attractive in person have never made it known to me directly. It’s always that RARE occasion where I think one is maybe making eye contact or someone I knew pointed out a guy was looking at me/word of mouth this or that guy found me attractive etc. Then on dating apps, I’d have guys that I initially considered *potential* eventually showing interest in me (asking out etc) after I got to know them a bit more and I just find a way to dip out.

Im so conflicted. I feel invisible & when a guy appeals to me in some way on a dating app (which should be taken with a grain of salt), I just can’t be bothered for whatever the reason is for me at that moment. It’s apathy/anxiety/self sabotage/confusion etc?