Why does my mom yell at me or say she’s busy anytime I need help?

[Anastacia1989]

So long story short, my mom knows a lady that’s hiring whom she happens to be friend with and works with and she was telling me she would help me out to try and get me in. Then an hour later when I was asking her for details and an address she started yelling at me and acting all mad for nothing! The she said she doesn’t want me screwing her over with her friend! She also says to me if I’m gonna know how to get to her friends office myself.

my boyfriend is a good guy and wants to get married but I need a steady job in order to do that to be able to afford house/ monthly bills…he an I have been together for 3 years now.

Another weird thing my mom did was ask in a pushy way for my boyfriend to move into my moms house with us (the 3 of us) and was trying to make him rent out his condo…he and I hve made it clear that we want our own place later on just the 2 of us..

so why does my mom act like this? Why does she offer to help and then start yelling at me and being all crazy towards me? Is she jealous of my relationship? Or does she fear me moving out?

Jealousy about my relationship

Selfish and is fearful of me moving out

Updates

1 y

Anytime my younger sister needs something she goes to her without any questions and never says no to her or yells at her (she lives on her own yet relies on my mom)

[Finchie40]

Parents’ tend to get stressed out when they notice their children not making any achievements in life , by you not having a job and working and saving money , your mom is stressed out that you won’t change and that you have no ambition to do anything. Unfortunately you are all talk with no actions , that’s why your Mom is upset with you. She loves and cares about you , but she is also worried and scared about you as well. Once your Mom c’a you are working and saving trying to better yourself and feels you are capable of supporting yourself , she will start getting off your back and stop yelling at you. Your Mom is just worried for you. The only reason she is upset about you working with her friend is because she doesn’t want you screwing her friend over , by you not showing up to work and not being a good worker. So just prove your Mom wrong and I guarantee she will get off
Your back

[Flower7]

Sounds like she doesn’t want you working with her friend. You should try to find a job on your own, one that is not connected to your mom.

[Anastacia1989]

I’ve been having difficulty finding something on my own and secondly my mom was the one who suggested and offered about her fiend so why would she act that way?

[Summeroflove]

It could be anything I’m sorry about that

[Anastacia1989]

Is it jealousy? Or is she fearful of me moving out?
Secondly I get bad anxiety attacks and the yelling didn’t help me

[Summeroflove]

Possibly both