Why do I feel so bad when my mom annoys me?

[birds]

I still live with my family and sometimes they put pressure on me. My mother especially starts arguments even in the smallest situations and this situation has become unbearable. That's why I get angry. How do you think I can deal with this situation?

[ohsheeT]

Well here's the thing if your mom annoys you

And you know down deep that she loves you she cares about you and she wants to see you succeed

But if you know that she's going to start something with you because that's her motherly duty.
Then acknowledge that to yourself that moment she said something to you

And you have the option to communicate back in a positive way or negative way with a tone without a tone

If you start out with a tone or an attitude she's going to feed on that and just start in on you so don't give her those options allow it to happen with a smile on your face and let it go.

I call it the tourette syndrome kind of where all of a sudden whether it be your parents or a friend or sibling
It hits them and they need to explode on somebody
And they will stay engaged as long as you allow them to

Remember just because she starts something doesn't mean that you have to jump into it you have to be smarter and let her say what she wants to say and you have to make it end quickly and that's not by fire and back at her don't give her that reason to keep going

[D_Bone_Steak]

Humans are not the only animals that become extremely aggressive to get the kids to fuck off and go do their own thing.

My Mom pushed my sister and I out of the house at 15 for me and 13 for my sister at the same time. She kept my baby sister who was still a toddler. My sister ended up doing crime and ended up in a group home. I moved to Hollywood, I did crime, but I've never been caught. It's hard to just go get a job when you're 16 with no parents.

Your profile says 34 though... why the fuck you still live with them? I think you need to do some thinking and maybe finally accept that you should feel bad. They gotta want you the fuck out by now. Even certain housemates can become a pain in the ass when it comes to the common spaces. You need to move the fuck out.

I know everything sucks and made life hell, but at least you're old enough to work. I would suggest getting the smallest cheapest place you can find. Learn to enjoy solitude.

[MemeSupreme]

nothin like digging your nails into your palm super hard bc your mom pisses you off sm lmfao

[MemeSupreme]

oh yeah you asked a question lol

i literally had to move away from my mom and she had to work on herself which took years for me to even consider letting her into my life again. idkk what you can do for you bc im assuming you've tried talking to her before

[Anonymous]

You should have moved out 15 years ago if that is your real age.

[trainer]

Living with your parents is hard when you feel like they are constantly pushing your buttons. It can be really frustrating and leave you feeling drained, especially when your mom seems to pick fights over the smallest things. It’s totally normal to get angry, but then you probably feel bad about it because she’s your mom. The key is to take a step back when things start to get heated. Don’t be in the moment, just give yourself some breathing space. Then, maybe talk to her when things have calmed down and explain how her behavior is affecting you without sounding like you’re blaming her. You should also make sure you take time for yourself to maintain your sanity, whether that’s doing something you enjoy or just spending some time alone.

[teguy]

I completely understand how frustrating it is when your mom starts arguments over little things, it can feel overwhelming. You feel bad that she’s your mom, but your anger is valid. When things get heated, take some time away to calm down. Then, try to have a calm conversation about how her behavior is affecting you without blaming her. Set boundaries and take time for yourself. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your peace while living with your parents.

[birds]

Thank you, it felt really good. It's hard to stay calm sometimes but like you said, it's important to keep my own peace.

[LukeAurelin]

Just one thing, just imagine if tomorrow she is no more what would you feel? Do u feel bad about the way you treated her, would u have treated her differently if you had know? Answer yourself these questions and talk to her - let her know how u feel

[Emmytexrex]

She loves you so much I want you to know that
But where her annoying behavior is coming from is she is trying to let you know you have to move out if she hasn't been like this and then she started treating you like this that's what it means

[Iron_Man]

Appreciate your family one day they won’t be around and you will beg for a moment with them

[Kingofkings1992]

Maybe you annoy her because you still live with her?

[MasterKS]

if you are 34 and still living with family, that what all you get and accept it.

[eagle1951]

because you shouldn't feel that way about your mom and you know it

[Alex-Snow]

I think it is time you got your own place

[Anonymous]

Get your own place and have lots of sex

[slatyb]

Move out?

[Jmmmfi4]

MOVE