Should I apologize or acknowledge it?

[Whyhim]

Hello,

I’ll keep it short. I work, not so closely, with this lady. For a few months we built what I would saw was a good friendship. We would go to lunch, talk during breaks, s she would often engage conversations and seek me to hang out. During this past holiday break our office was going renovations so we would be out for a few additional weeks. I sent her a short message that I was going to be in a very popular area, and will be with friends and other colleagues, so I invited her. I didn’t receive a response and didn’t think too much of it.

When we did return to the office I noticed she was distant and cold for the next two weeks. I know we don’t work closely together and don’t have to communicate if we don’t have too. Which is almost never. I took this at face value and brushed it off and left it at that. The past few days she has been giving me notes and messaging me asking to communicate more.

My prospective is that I might have been wrong in asking her to meet with me and other colleagues during the renovations. That she might have had the wrong idea, but she still could have communicated and said no or she was busy. I’m not currently wanting to engage her anymore. Thoughts?

Updates

1 y

Short update.

I have decided to play it cool and keep things casual and less personal. I am have not been rude nor disrespectful. Hopefully things play out well, so far she’s said nothing to me not I to her.

[SueShe]

The real question here is:

What are your ultimate intentions with this lady? Are you hoping to get into her pants? Otherwise, I don't really see why you would use so much energy trying to invite a person of the opposite sex to do something, given the fact that you don't interact with her on a regular basis but only from time to time.

Don't apologize and just acknowledge it. It is a bad idea anyway to try to start something with coworkers. It seldom works and causes more issues because you may cause jealousies with other coworkers.

Just give her the space she needs and be nothing more than friendly as one would be between coworkers.

[Abbycado]

Sorry. I read through that and still don't understand what you would be apologizing for or acknowledging.

[Whyhim]

I would ideally apologize if the invitation came across as inappropriate or uncomfortable. This person is the newest person in the office. I was trying to be friendly and make her feel part of the social group.

[Sevenpointfive]

send her a note explaining that you aren't a little boy that communicates through mail.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, relationships and their nuances, right? It sounds like she's sending some mixed signals, typical roller-coaster stuff. If she’s now reaching out after being distant, she might just feel a little awkward about her previous coldness. My advice? Be the bigger person. A simple, light acknowledgment like, “Hey, I noticed things got a bit chilly, sorry if the invite was off-putting. No hard feelings?” can dissolve any tension and set the tone for future interactions. Plus, a little humor can work wonders. Good luck, and may the relationship roller-coaster tilt in your favor! 😘

[biraileeşkadını]

"Humans are freakish beings; they do everything, knowingly hurt and break, and the only thing they can do is apologize."

[Anonymous]

You should apologize.