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I was in a store today and I saw someone fall outside. I went out to see if I could help. By the time I got there a few people had already helped him up. He was much younger than I had anticipated. He had a leg condition I believe and was using a cane as a result. My Intent was to go see if I could be of help. When I arrived I saw there was a little dog in a case, the dog had fallen too.

The store clerk was swinging the dog into the cart. This was unexpected and caught me off guard. The person who had fallen and got up and kind of positioned the dog awkwardly. Honestly at this point I was feeling most badly for the dog bc it had no control over the situation and no one had checked on it. The guy who fell said thank you and moved on. I got the impression he didn’t want any more “ help” I didn’t want to embarrass him or make him feel putties but I also was worried about the dog.

I politely asked him if I could make a suggestion on how to position the case bc I take Bella in there and there’s a way to do it so it lays flat. He didn’t want to do it that way bc then the dog would he on the bottom. Ok I understand that abs I only had like 15 seconds to assess. The dog was calm & looked well groomed so I figured he cared for the dog it was just an awkward moment. I wanted to say more , to offer to help him or the dog but again I didn’t want to embarrass him.

I have a condition and when I fall I really have people gathering around tho I know they are only trying to be kind. I felt really bad walking away bc he had taken a huge fall and the first thing I said was a recommendation. I should’ve said I hope he’s ok if I saw he had a big wipe out if I can help I’d be happy to. If he wanted he to puss off ok but at least he’d know I care.

Being prideful sucks bc you see things through that lens and miss opportunity where help would’ve been good. . If I didn’t feel so awkward when people offer to help, I’d probably have just offered without thinking of it.

I work remotely so only interactions I’ve had with these people are through teams. I’ve been there almost a year, so far I haven’t had any negative interactions with the people on my team. Today after we all met my boss sends me message separately wanting to speak. She started it with saying that she doesn’t want to read into my body language during the meeting too much but it looked like I rolled my eyes & she wanted to know there’s something I’d want to discuss with her. I told her no & had to ask if this was the first time I gave this impression. She said no it’s happened enough for her to want to bring it up today. I told her it’s been a few stressful weeks & it’s all fatigue, if I did it’s nothing against her. But if she’s been saying I’ve been doing this for a while then I have no excuse to back that up. I have two monitors, one on top of desk & other at eye level so I had to bring that up, she said she didn’t want to bring it up at our 1:1. I told her that I’m pretty responsive communication wise & didn’t think overall I came across that way, I said that to imply that I have no issue communicating with her. I’ve been pretty open with her, she said her bringing this up had nothing to do with my work ethic this is all regarding “attitude”. With all the communication we’ve had in the past, she’s said positive things for the most part & this is the first time I really felt tense talking to her. She honestly seemed kind of upset, tomorrow is our 1:1 for the month & I’m kinda nervous.

I work remotely so only interactions I’ve had with these people are through teams. I’ve been there almost a year, so far I haven’t had any negative interactions with the people on my team. Today after we all met my boss sends me message separately wanting to speak. She started it with saying that she doesn’t want to read into my body language during the meeting too much but it looked like I rolled my eyes & she wanted to know there’s something I’d want to discuss with her. I told her no & had to ask if this was the first time I gave this impression. She said no it’s happened enough for her to want to bring it up today. I told her it’s been a few stressful weeks & it’s all fatigue, if I did it’s nothing against her. But if she’s been saying I’ve been doing this for a while then I have no excuse to back that up. I have two monitors, one on top of desk & other at eye level so I had to bring that up, she said she didn’t want to bring it up at our 1:1. I told her that I’m pretty responsive communication wise & didn’t think overall I came across that way, I said that to imply that I have no issue communicating with her. I’ve been pretty open with her, she said her bringing this up had nothing to do with my work ethic this is all regarding “attitude”. With all the communication we’ve had in the past, she’s said positive things for the most part & this is the first time I really felt tense talking to her. She honestly seemed kind of upset, tomorrow is our 1:1 for the month & I’m kinda nervous.