Nevermet LDR: Fantasy or reality?

DiegoO

I said I wasn't gonna make another MyTake about nevermet LDR, but I need to clarify certain aspects of it, because I think most people just don't understand what it means to be in one.

With this MyTake I am not hoping to encourage or normalize that type of relationship. I'm hoping to expand our comprehension of how flexible and complex is our mind; despite been limited by X or Y factor.

Before going further, I must clarify that I neither believed in Nevermet LDR, before knowing who I consider my ex. At that time, I also didn't feel any preasure of being in a relationship. In other words, I wasn't desperate to be in one. Everything I experienced, developed gradually in a chat room, not with a dating app/website. When we finally started making video calls, it became official, for us. Since then, we video chatted almost 7 days of the week.

Some may argue, that the feelings weren't real. As the esceptic I was, I would agree, but there's more into it than debating the realness of a LDR. Are we humans capable of forging bonds, without physical contact? In religion I find the answer to that question. Yes, we are capable of forging deep emotional connections with someone we don't have a physical interaction. Is the experience real as the cellphone you got in hand? My discovery: it's real as the emotions it makes you feel. If it evokes strong emotions in you, it's all that matters.

One example: Psychopaths don't have the capacity to feel empathy for others, their mind is wired differently. The average person is able to feel empathy to great degrees. For one, a sentiment like love is unexistant, for the other, it's part of its human experience.

It's fantasy or reality?

There's a saying: "you can't love what you don't know", but then what we do know exactly? Every notion we form of someone is preconceived by first impressions and the validation others have from that person. I agree that there is not much to know of someone we only interact with, online; but from the little we can get to know, our mind create links from all the sensorial information available. What I am defending is that ability we have to connect with others, regardless of the distance. So, fantasy or reality? What's fantasy is the idea you form about that person, everyday life. Everything else depends of trust and honesty, like in a conventional relationship. The presence of trust and honesty, makes any relation: genuine; the absence of it, makes it a mirage—for conventional relations and nevermet.

How to know that a Nevermet LDR is genuine or not?

You can't entirely know for certain. Just like conventional relationships, you can only be a 100% sure of what you are feeling.

Are LDR a waste of time?

I believe it's a waste of time. Is far better to meet someone in person. It's less stressful to go oldschool.

Does it worth it?

If you think it worth it, go for it. I tried and fail, but my story is not your story. Just be extremely careful with who you are dealing with.

Aloud yourself to open up without leaving yourself out. You'll possibly understand that feelings can sprout anywhere, in any context. Call it online, offline. Our mind have the full capacity to generate emotions, without physical proximity and full knowledge. It has a capability beyond borders, beyond rational.

Nevermet LDR: Fantasy or reality?
Nevermet LDR: Fantasy or reality?
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