A few weeks ago i started talking with a guy from a dating site, and soon after that we meet up for a date/walk. We hit it of quite well and we both wanted to see the other person more, and i really started to like this guy. sadly, due to some things that happend in my personal life and me now having to come to terms with that im now going to have to say goodbye to a dying family member in a few weeks, i really didn't feel like hanging out at a dating site (having this going on in my mind), so i asked this guy if i could add him on other social media sites so we could keep in contact. No problem! we did add eachother on other sites and i left the dating site.
we hung out once more after we added eachother on snapchat, and i told him what had happend to my relative, also so he understood that i was intrested in him and that i wasn't trying to ghost him or make shit up, and he understood the situation i told him completly and even sent his regards to my family, and wanted me to focus on my family. Like, i cannot with words describe how amazing this guy was!
But here's the thing now, this guy dont live in my hometown fulltime, but in a town a few hours away (he was in my town due to finishing his studies to become a nurse.) and was going to go home now for Christmas. i asked him if we could see eachother once more before he left (he was leaving Wednesday, i asked Tuesday if we could meet.) he said sure and asked if we could hang out at my place. i told him that i prefered not to, due to me not having cleaned or done the dishes for days due to the news i had recived about my relative. (I've been a mess for real...)
he told me that he didn't care about my place looking like a mess, and that he really just wanted to see me again before he left. i finally caved, realising that this guys was really intrested in me and that i shouldn't let the cleaning come in the way. so i said fine, and told him to come over right away, but after he had read that message, he told me that he was going to shower, walk the dog, and clean the place where he had stayed before he left for Wednesday around noon.
but thats it. and I've heard nothing from him sins then.
i texted him about three more times Tuesday afternoon after he wrote the text about showering, the dog, etc. the first message was where i asked if he wanted to eat lunch after he had cleaned, (which he didn't read.) a few hours later if he wanted to eat dinner at my place (he didn't read that eithere) and lastly that i was going to go for a walk and that he could join me if he wanted to. (No respons to that one eithere) i did send him one last message this morning when i noticed on snapchat that he had left town this morning that i didn't know that he had left, and that i wished him a merry Christmas. (he didn't respond to this eithere.)
im to good at giving people a chance to much in my life long after they deserve it. and i just fucking snapped this afternoon with everything thats going on in my life. I've heard nothing sins Tuesday, and as i wrote earlier, with everything thats been going on in my live i have way to much to think about. So i deleted him from every social media i had added him on. I liked this guy, but feel like having another thing to thing about and thats nagging in the back of my mind is enough and his behaviour was making me feel sick to my stomach. He was really good at answering when you texted him. But after my initial decline to have him come over and meet up one last time before he left he just stopped talking to me.
I guess my question in this entire thing is if i did the wrong thing to cut all contact with him? i didn't even care to give a explination over text sins he wasn't reading my texts anyway. And i feel like i might have given him the impression anyhow that i rejected him by not having him over at my place, which i dont blame him for, but i feel like that would be a really sensative thing to feel rejected about?
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The honest truth is I don't think either of you did anything wrong long distance relationships do not work out it sounds like he was interested in all the right ways and they just want to spend time with you I know when I'm interested in a woman your house can be a complete wreck for all I care as long as I get to be with you that's all that matters to me. Now with a laws in your family you're in a very emotional delicate situation so you're going to be upset and there's a possibility he misconstrued any kind of text you sent him in a negative way and he also realized he's going to be leaving town and probably not come back for quite some time so he just decided to cut all ties and leave I don't agree with him just going ghost altogether I only do that when I feel that it's an ex that I need to stop talking to or it's somebody who's did me wrong completely that I need to just entice with. It hurts but it could have been worse this could have been someone you dated you could have been physically intimate with and you could have emotionally bonded to that would have been so much harder for you but since you two were just talking give it a couple days couple weeks and it'll pass and you'll be back together again and some other guy will come up on your radar and you'll have another chance
thank you for a well-thought message. i haven't even thought about him maybe misunderstanding something that i wrote to him
not wrong to cut