I know society and my family are going to say that it was the right choice, but I still have my doubts because the "break up" is recent.
An old friend, an old flame, came in contact with me last year (in long distance). We reconnected and got updated with what we have been doing, and even before reconnecting, I got the news that he got married and became a father, which he confirmed. However, as time passed by, he started to woo me, made me remind about the old times, and praising me. I didn't take any importance at first, but then, he started to want to become more close.
After I felt that things were going to be further, I had to tell him to stop, because we know he is married and that in the future he was going to hurt me if things went further. He understood and we ended it as just friends in good terms.
Right now, these days I am having a mix of feelings and my mind is looking messages around the world if I made the right desicion or not. On one hand, everything is pointing out that I made the right desicion, that we told everything that we needed, things became clear and everything else was going to be just extra stuff.
On the other hand, my mind is making up excuses that I should have handled it better, about giving him the chance that we could have continued if he was divorced, or that I would have gone on if he promised me to visit me and meet physically only once. Also I saw a film where the woman protagonist had both a husband and a lover, each one gave her what the other couldn't and no one seemed to complain. (A foreign film Das Vorspiel). Also that because of that last talk, I am afraid that he won't contact me anymore.
After all this stuff I wrote, what do you think?, could things have been much better or was it a right choice despite all the regrets I may have?
An old friend, an old flame, came in contact with me last year (in long distance). We reconnected and got updated with what we have been doing, and even before reconnecting, I got the news that he got married and became a father, which he confirmed. However, as time passed by, he started to woo me, made me remind about the old times, and praising me. I didn't take any importance at first, but then, he started to want to become more close.
After I felt that things were going to be further, I had to tell him to stop, because we know he is married and that in the future he was going to hurt me if things went further. He understood and we ended it as just friends in good terms.
Right now, these days I am having a mix of feelings and my mind is looking messages around the world if I made the right desicion or not. On one hand, everything is pointing out that I made the right desicion, that we told everything that we needed, things became clear and everything else was going to be just extra stuff.
On the other hand, my mind is making up excuses that I should have handled it better, about giving him the chance that we could have continued if he was divorced, or that I would have gone on if he promised me to visit me and meet physically only once. Also I saw a film where the woman protagonist had both a husband and a lover, each one gave her what the other couldn't and no one seemed to complain. (A foreign film Das Vorspiel). Also that because of that last talk, I am afraid that he won't contact me anymore.
After all this stuff I wrote, what do you think?, could things have been much better or was it a right choice despite all the regrets I may have?
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