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The Decisiveness Dilemma

"Decisiveness" is said to be an attractive feature in men. He's supposed to know what he wants, especially when it comes to his relationship with a woman, say he wants it, and then accept whatever results from his boldness. But what exactly constitutes decisiveness?

The Decisiveness Dilemma

This is more complicated than people think. I don't disagree that it's good for a guy to be decisive, but decisiveness isn't magic. When confronted with the statement that "if he doesn't want to ask her out, then he doesn't truly love her," he can ask himself if that statement is relevant. In a lot of cases if a guy "asks a girl out" the two don't really know each other, but could go out to open-mindedly get to know each other. But since he doesn't know her, he's not in a position to decide whether or not he "loves" her. He can decide whether or not he's physically attracted to her, but from what I hear that isn't entirely what girls want when they say they want "love" or the guy to be "decisive on whether or not he loves her." Give him a chance to get to know you, then when he's actually in a position to decide, then decisiveness is on him. I'm not gonna blindly buy a car without test driving it just for the sake of being decisive, nor am I gonna just not buy a car. I'm gonna test drive a car, decide if I want it, and if so, buy it.

This is also the girl's opportunity to do the same thing. Get to know him and see if he's the kind for her.

The Decisiveness Dilemma
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