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Inspired by a question @ultimega just asked: Have any of you heard this rule before?

But seriously! What's the point in telling boys to be "chivalrous" and girls to behave "like a lady" when instead we could just cut the crap and tell everyone to be polite?

Like if a dude opens a door for me, that's cool, I'll say thanks but I'm not going to expect him to open a door for me, or wait for him when he's miles behind just so he can open a door for me- and chances are if he's behind me, and I'm in front then I'll hold the door open for him, not because I'm trying to make a feminist statement and he's not opening the door to be chivalrous for me- we're both just being polite.

And then as for all this "lady-like" stuff, I hear dumb things like that rule above, because firstly that's just rude not to finish your plate and it's wasteful too. Secondly, I hear things like: "don't chew with your mouth open, it's not ladylike" but that's just stupid to say, because it's rude and off putting for a girl or a guy to chew with their mouth open. Again, if I chew with my mouth closed I'm not trying to be ladylike and if a dude chews with his mouth closed he's not trying to be "feminized" or whatever, we're both just being polite.

Honestly, if I have a son or a daughter I'm not going to fill their heads with those labels, when I can tell them both to just be polite, decent human beings.

So do you think we should promote chivalry to boys and being ladylike to girls or do you think we should just promote being polite to both boys and girls? And why?