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Hey, so I met a guy around 7 yr ago while I was working in a restaurant, he asked for my number &then a few weeks later I got a train to see him for the weekend. We got on really really well but I didn’t sleep with him as wernt officially dating, we spoke for months after but I ended up going travelling& when I got back he had a girlfriend, I ended up in a 3 year relationship but then we both somehow ended up single at the same time, he contacted me (as must have seen I deleted all photos of ex) we went on a date and the date was just amazing I can’t explain the butterfly feeling he gives me. Still didn’t sleep with him as I’m old fashioned and we weren’t exclusive.. anyways after the date I got back with my ex and we didn’t speak. A year later I’m single & he gets in touch asking if I’m okay and randomly turned up at my house with flowers to cheer me up. we end up talking for a few weeks and he’s asking me why I never make effort to talk to him and why he’s always chasing me (he’s a basketball player so I’m kind of wary that he’s talking to loads of other girls & I’m a bit shy I’m nowhere near as hot) by the way we still haven’t had sex but just having a really nice connection. Again he goes radio Silent on me.. so fast forward a few months and he rings me drunk saying I’m the only person he’s ever loved and he’s so nervous around me etc.. I thought I would make more effort with him so I start finally messaging first and stuff and we plan to have a night away and we talk about having sex & it gets quiet passionate. then again he goes radio silent. so a month goes by & after hearing nothing from him he pops up merry Christmas I love you & one day your going to be my wife which is random as hell since he practically ghosted me twice this year? Then after talking every night on the phone he’s gone silent again? am I reading this all wrong does he even like me or what? or am I just not making enough effort? & no he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend I know his family

I must admit right away that I'm not very interesting or fun to most people. I'm not a huge fan of travelling, exercising or just straight up being a social butterfly.

• Do you believe we've got to have some interesting universally liked hobbies to find a partner?
• What are the hobbies (especially uncommon hobbies) that you like your partner to have?
• And how much do you care about hobbies in the first place?

I don't think a guy who is in love with travelling and/or climbing could find me interesting in the first place!

• My hobbies are pretty much these:

baking (from time to time)
politics (I like to have an overview)
reading (short stories mostly)
gaming (I used to game a lot when I was younger, now I do it only occasionally)
movies (especially horror and movies from directors like Carpenter or Tarantino)
cars (not a pro but I enjoy watching races, Rallye for example, and I like to take car of my car and I enjoy car rides very much)
shopping (mostly online shopping, shopping clothes for my boyfriend or myself)
pets (we've got cats and horses, I love both, I love animals in general)

I won't lie, I'm a homebody, is that a turn off? I believe that there's nothing better than being cuddled up in bed/on a couch and enjoying a movie while eating cookies and later getting handsy with each other.

I'm just really simple, very physical and basic things make me happy... I don't need much else.

I'd only want to start going out a bit more, like a theatre or eating out at new or favorite restaurants/bistros. Plus, I have never tried bowling and I'm not the best at swimming, I want to work on that.