I met this call travelling four years ago when we both had different partners. Despite only meeting for a few days she stayed in touch and over time we became so close and incredible support networks for each other. A wonderful friendship. At times that friendship would drift into grey areas sometimes we would sext etc. Not frequently but sometimes. She always said she wanted to visit me and meet again face to face. In the past she had said things like she had fantasized for years about travelling to see me and making a go of it. After four years she booked the trip and she travelled over to spend a week with me we were both so excited and we got on great for first few days. She was loving Ireland. She did briefly kiss me on the shoulder rubbing my chest. one of the nights we slept. We held hands for a while then suddenly she turned away. She is in love with another guy that is actually married and completely unavailable (let's not judge) she believes it real yet he can't leave his wife.
During the trip I told her that I had developed feelings for her. I did it in a respectful way. She said I would end up resenting her as she's not into me and the trip was ruined. I assured her when it was not reciprocated that I don't resent her that's how she feels. She can't help it. I assured her she means the world to me and we can continue the trip as friends. After an hour of awkwardness, we were back on great terms laughing and joking. We stayed up all night talking rubbish. I felt so validated I didn't even care about the rejection.
The next morning everything had changed. She told me she had lost all trust for me that she felt betrayed and violated. That I had manipulated her to coming to see me and done this. Even though she had mentioned she was coming to see me just as a friend. She reacted so angry with me and told me to just drop her off and we would go out separate ways. She blocked me on everything and said never contact her again. Of course I'll respect that.
