So I became friends with a girl about 6 months ago. She knew I developed feelings for her but she told me that she didn't feel the same way and thinks we're better as friends, and so I began seeing new girls and she began seeing different guys vut we kept hanging out as friends, going for a walk together once a week. Recently though, she's began to act differently. She says she still has no feelings, but I've noticed that everything I say now is hilarious to her. I've been told to check for body language and things like that but it's hot and cold, sometimes she has no issue with us touching in flirty areas, and others so doesn't like when I stand close. Sometimes her body is open towards me and others it's closed. In every aspect she gives off very hot and cold vibes. We've began to get very close though, especially recently. We go to the cinema together and we went to the beach the other day, where we ended up wrestling and she just giggled, before going for lunch and she wanted to share a dessert together. Last night she came by with a Chinese and came into Mt bedroom to watch a movie together. At the start she was very stiff and sat on my bed corner, then eventually she started wrestling me a bit on the bed and by the end she was laying beside me completely facing me. Yet, once the movie ended she got straight up and left. She had no interest in a chat, or another movie or anything just straight gone which was so strange. I've been told that she's probably now started questioning how she feels and the recent change in our relationship is her seeing if she'd enjoy being with me without risking our friendship if she doesn't, and that the best thing I can do is keep making her have fun and allow her to keep coming towards me, as if I make a move I risk scaring her off. However I'm not an expert so I'd like some advice? she's done a complete 180 in how she treats me. I was always a friend, but now she jumps between super hot and just a friend
She's becoming very close but says she doesn't like me?
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I feel like she’s just become very comfortable with you and it’s almost like you’re her best friend. I’ve had a guy friend like that, where we were super close to where others thought we could be a couple, and he’d asked me out before but I still saw him as just a good friend, I know people are expected to have certain etiquette with friendships but everyone is different and acts within their comfort levels. If you really want to ask again then nothing is stopping you. I’m no expert I could be entirely wrong. But even the fact that she’s seemingly told you twice that she doesn’t feel that way about you should say a lot. Maybe creating a bit of distance would help your feelings settle down. It’s hard to get over romantic thoughts and feelings when you are so close with that person. Good luck with whatever you decide!
I suppose a point I should've made but didn't have enough characters is. We dated before and she lost feelings, and we also slept together about 2 months ago but never spoke about it seen as we were both pretty drunk
Wait, I remember you posting about that! Maybe more than once but that’s either here nor there. Dude you’ve gotta let that shit go or make a move. You can squeeze in every little detail and get all kinds of advice, but it won’t stop you from being afraid that you’ll chase her off or mess up the friendship. There’s no getting around that fear, it’s just a risk you have to take if you really want her. I still think the fact she’s turned you down twice already matters, because she’s got every opportunity to give you another chance but there’s a reason she doesn’t.
She probably does has feelings for you.
The mixed signals is usually a telltale sign.
She likes the chemistry y’all have but probably doesn’t want to ruin things in case y’all don’t work out. (I’ve been there a few times)
It’s hard when you really like someone, but fearing that you’ll ruin it. So some people tend to give in and show signs of interest but then pull away
Give it time and let things happen organically if you’re in no rush and are okay with how things are. However, If it’s weighing on your mind to the point where it brings you stress, then it’s probably time to sit and have a talk and you’ll have to enforce boundaries so there’s no confusion and you don’t end up hurt.
Some people don’t mind open casual relationships. But please just be mindful of your heart. You don’t want to end up falling for her just for her to go off and be in a serious relationship with someone else.
What is a flirty area?
Lower back, inside of thighs etc
It sounds to me like she wants sexual stuff and not friend stuff.