Guys advice please? Am I missing something?

[Anonymous]

Hey, so I met a guy around 7 yr ago while I was working in a restaurant, he asked for my number &then a few weeks later I got a train to see him for the weekend. We got on really really well but I didn’t sleep with him as wernt officially dating, we spoke for months after but I ended up going travelling& when I got back he had a girlfriend, I ended up in a 3 year relationship but then we both somehow ended up single at the same time, he contacted me (as must have seen I deleted all photos of ex) we went on a date and the date was just amazing I can’t explain the butterfly feeling he gives me. Still didn’t sleep with him as I’m old fashioned and we weren’t exclusive.. anyways after the date I got back with my ex and we didn’t speak. A year later I’m single & he gets in touch asking if I’m okay and randomly turned up at my house with flowers to cheer me up. we end up talking for a few weeks and he’s asking me why I never make effort to talk to him and why he’s always chasing me (he’s a basketball player so I’m kind of wary that he’s talking to loads of other girls & I’m a bit shy I’m nowhere near as hot) by the way we still haven’t had sex but just having a really nice connection. Again he goes radio Silent on me.. so fast forward a few months and he rings me drunk saying I’m the only person he’s ever loved and he’s so nervous around me etc.. I thought I would make more effort with him so I start finally messaging first and stuff and we plan to have a night away and we talk about having sex & it gets quiet passionate. then again he goes radio silent. so a month goes by & after hearing nothing from him he pops up merry Christmas I love you & one day your going to be my wife which is random as hell since he practically ghosted me twice this year? Then after talking every night on the phone he’s gone silent again? am I reading this all wrong does he even like me or what? or am I just not making enough effort? & no he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend I know his family

Yes he likes u make more effort

Take the hint he’s not interested

[Flower7]

He seems interested, but I get the feeling he’s just keeping you on the back burner while he has sex with other women.

[Asker]

Yeh I think that too that he’s not wanting to give up the playboy lifestyle yet? :(

[JPresidente]

It sounds to me like the classic over used line of "I love you" as a pick up line to get you in bed. This guys sounds like a player.

[Asker]

But he had the chance to sleep with me when we planned the weekend away and he didn’t so it can’t be about sex?

[JPresidente]

I could be wrong but he could have waited to make himself look more gentlemanly

[Asker]

He said the night before the hotel that he was too nervous as waited so long , yet I know he has slept with A LOT of women

[Iron_Man]

This is extremely complicated like a story written out of a block and a basketball player

[Asker]

Your telling me it’s complicated 🤣

[Iron_Man]

Extremely

[Guy13]

Love bombing narcissist

[Asker]

Do you think? Why won’t he leave me alone if he’s not interested :(

[Guy13]

Control and feeds off your struggle and pain. He’s dead and your emotional state feeds him. He loves you is nothing more than you are a tool that makes sociopath feel something.-He calls that love.

He’s getting it from somewhere but when a source is drained there is always you. Block every way. Restraining order if necessary. It seems you like it though so you’re an easy target for him.

[Asker]

I know I’m probably too weak as I've never felt this way with anyone 🙈

[Guy13]

I hate it for-not being rude.

[Dildорhobe]

Find the other chicks he was with and see if he made the same promises to them.

[Shy_Steve]

I feel sorry for Him, He thought you liked him then you Hookup with your ex.