Guy advice please?

[Anonymous]

Recently got a new friends with benefits, met him through church. We’ve texted here and there but we are both adults and are busy. I work a lot. So I texted him dtf he said yes when I said the next day? He never got back to me, but I saw him this morning In church and he looked for me came over said hi to me hugged me met my friend. Hugged my boys, I talked to his mom. We hugged talked about meeting up on Tuesday. (Me and his mom) But he never responded back to me? It’s driving me crazy? So he won’t text me but will actively look for me in church and seek me out but won’t respond? I’m not a mind reader so I have no idea what he’s thinking?

[Anonymous]

Chances are he’s really busy or has someone else he’s booking up w as well. Possibly even a girlfriend. As for church well unless he doesn’t go to church there’s no avoiding you so that’s why he’s seeking you out to make you think everything is ok, that he’s not ignoring you. You’re just on-call in my opinion.

[SteveSmith1985]

I don't think anybody can help you with this. This is inexplicable behavior. I do mean that. There is no reason I can fathom, which would cause him to not respond to that message, yet seek you out in person. That literally makes no sense. It is the behavior of somebody who does not think there is a response they owe. I don't know how that could possibly be the case though.

Sorry, but if somebody makes sense of this for you, I'll eat both of my shoes. This is weird.

[Anonymous]

Friends with benefits at church? What kinda church you going to and how can I join?🤣

[Anonymous]

Maybe that's too fast... maybe he doesn't want to shit where he eats...

[Opinion Owner]

The worst men are the ones who are church goers lol trust me I know

[Asker]

I’d get it if it was fast but I’m really not making any of the moves here, so I’m confused?

[Opinion Owner]

You are.. didn't u ask him dtf? Lol

[Asker]

Yea just the once since he was in town, but I think I get what your saying. I’ll probably just keep my distance then. If he texts he texts if he dosent he dosent

[spartan55]

Why do women agree to friends with benefits? It NEVER works. He has a girlfriend or wife, I'd bet the ranch on it.

[Asker]

I think so too, his mom said he was single and even his moms best friend who he grew up with said he was single but then again who knows

[spartan55]

Second hand information...🤦

[spartan55]

Just remember: you entered into an arrangement fundamentally built on disrespect. So don't be surprised at the journey or the outcome.

[Asker]

Appreciate the honesty, you are correct.

[spartan55]

You're welcome!

[bowenw]

That is disrespectful of him to not to reply. If he is lucky enough to be your friends with benefits, he should show some interest. I suggest you find a new one.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't think it's a guy thing. I've gotten the same thing from girls, just not in any kind of a church situation.

[Gaylordslav]

Maybe he's a fag got you women are great at detecting that

[BarryLiverstone]

He’s thinking you are not serious

[Asker]

What is there to be serious about?

[BarryLiverstone]

You texted him dtf. He didn’t think you meant it. He just thought you were flirting or being playful., so he didn’t make planes to go to your house

[BarryLiverstone]

What was your plan when you sent that message?