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I used to have a stranger crush on a guy from college and the feeling was Mutual (according to his friends) but we never talked and he seemed very reserved around me and never made any moves.

Now years later he met another girl in college he works with in a group and he was very flirty and confident around her from the very beginning, he acts very touchy feely with her, leans in, acts cutesy and started dressing better.

Why did he never try to impress me or talk to me like that If he was crushing on me too? Does he find her more attractive? Or is it because he has established rapport with her but not with me? Or because she is more outgoing and talkative?

I often hear some people say men have to be tall, handsome, confident etc for dating women. And that men date what they can get?

So they claim some men are attractive, others are not. It follows that there is such a thing as top tier minority of men. Doesn't this apply to women too?

Are all women equally attractive?