Is it considered a charity work to date someone much older if you are a young a guy/girl?

[BlissfullyCurSed]

In a way, you help an old wo/man to feel good and also confident while taking care of their physical needs. People who work as caretakers do this for money. Meanwhile, these young people doing it for love. Isn't that a charity work to an extent?

Yes, it is.

No. it isn't.

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*these young people are doing it

[love_conquers_lust]

I’ve made it this far without that kind of charity. I don’t need it now either. Women should be with me because they want to be. I’d also hate myself for faking that with an older woman, that wouldn’t be fair to her.

I’d argue they’re more dating themselves if they consider their relationship as charity. I don’t need that kind of selfishness by my side. Ironic, isn’t it.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

you are not an old man. 🤣🤣 this does not apply to you. You are a middle-aged dude at most.

[Anonymous]

No, lmao.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

yes, it is.

[KelseiGrammar]

Is it a green card marriage?

[Opinion Owner]

@KelseiGrammar Sure looks like it, lol.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

@KelseiGrammar just two people loving each other.

[KelseiGrammar]

He's probably cool as hell and she probably saw pics of him as a young man or something. He seems content. Some people are like if they're being treated good then age isn't a factor.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you are in a relationship with an older person simply because you feel sorry for them, do you tell the older person that you really aren't attracted to them at all and you are doing this just as a means of feeling good about yourself?

[BlissfullyCurSed]

I am actually an old user of this site. I remember you! If that person was just as annoying as you, I would.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have no doubt that you would.

[KelseiGrammar]

If that's the case, everybody everywhere does charity work while dating. Everything you said, don't we ALL want that?

[BlissfullyCurSed]

but not everyone is a 70 year-old grandpa/ma.

[KelseiGrammar]

I think that's a person by person type of thing but I'd never call it charity. My mom is 72 and looks 50. My grandma died at 90 with no wrinkles and all of her teeth. I see extremely attractive seniors everywhere, especially the gym. Men look distinguished when they get older. But I've never seen 70 year old genitals. I'll have an old man when I become an old woman. Some people are genuinely attracted to older people. Some people have mommy/daddy issues. Some people are looking for a sugar daddy/mama, in which case it's usually mutual and, like the caregiver, they're getting paid. It's based on the individual. But if someone has a physical relationship with a person significantly older and they're getting nothing from it, they probably really like that person