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girlfriend (33) has said she needs more emotional intimacy and vulnerability primarly through conversation. She has asked me (m32) to ask more about her life, dreams, culture l, ask deep questions etc however I fid this difficult. Firstly she rarely does this herself (which I find strange if it is her need) surely she wouldn't be able to stop herself asking me those very same questions, initiating deep conversations etc and secondly I prefer conversations like this to happen organically, the couple of times i have come prepared with a few questions it just feels forced and my girlfriend knows it so it doesn't fulfil her anyway. I therefore asked if she could show me, teach me how she would like these conversations to proceed by initiating a few of her own so we can build on it. I thought it might be a good idea but she said no, that this was her need so I should want to do it. I understand her frustration but I honestly don't feel she is taking enough responsibility for her own need. Not really sure where we go from here. Am I wrong for expecting her to take some responsibility for her needs, as in make an effort and not leave it completely to me?

• Someone you just met Remembers things about you, ask personal questions, text you first, apologizes for a late response to your text
• Someone that you reconnected with seem nervous/awkward while conversing with you through messages, uses hahaha, exclamation point in text a lot, answers even when you're not asking a question, compliment you multiple times, keep close tabs of you online, apologize for grammar mistakes in text

This question was inspired by another recent question from a female who was hurt because her man said he would want a paternity test if they had kids. Whether or not most people realize it, paternity fraud is very common today. Most studies have shown about one in ten children is raised by a man who thinks he is the biological father but is not.

Should it become the norm for mothers to just offer to do a paternity test without being asked, so the father is not put in that awkward position of having to asking for one or wonder for the rest of his life whether he is the actual father? It would be a gesture of love that shows she is loyal and appreciates her man’s commitment and trust and doesn’t want him to ever have a reason to question hers.

Should this become the norm? Or would women be against it to show solidarity with the many mothers who cheated and hid it from their husbands, children, and the real fathers?