Is it possible for someone to fall in love even without knowing it?

[Ofoceans]

For context, I think my guy friend is falling in love with me but doesn't seem to know it. I just took the hint more seriously right now because he is asking for emotional support from me when he underwent an operation and said to contact him before and after to check on him.

It wasn't a simple motivation. I had to show my caring side and we promise to eat out together after. I said I can't wait to him getting better and he said he can't wait to eat a lot. There was more and it was really intimate, sort of a life and death situation and there was us trying to defy it.

He literally copied the same situation when I was in the hospital and also need to undergo an operation, he also was my emotional support back then but the difference is I didn't ask him to check on me. He just did. Although i did message him that I got hospitalized.

I think this all started when he constantly became my "rescuer" when I got sick and always checked up on my health frequently. He then ask about my routine, tells me what to do, guides me, creates an excel sheet of what i should eat. He especially loved to be complimented on and he does also compliment me often.

In person he is very silent and can't look me in the eye but on messages, he is very sweet and wants to take care of me all the time. He tells me if I did well and just exhibits signs of emotional dependency.

If I so much as not talk to him for days, he says he gets worried and asked me if I was okay and he asked me this when he was the one in the hospital.

The dependency, frequency of contact and the emotional support he wants from me tells me there's something there but I fear that we may be in an emotional affair. I know he had a girlfriend last year and I think it's still going on. My question now is how can I remove myself from this? Is it possible for someone to fall inlove even without knowing it?

[dreamelle]

It happened to me. I didn’t realise what the feelings I had were. The way my mood and outlook would lift so intensely was more than just me being grateful for his presence. I remember thinking “I’d really want a person like that in my life to date or marry, he’d be so good to be with’. Didn’t realise until later that I just wanted him.

[WhitneySnow]

I think he has feelings for you and probably knows it


A girlfriend is not a spouse. People can break up.

[SotiCoto]

If they're particularly lacking in self-awareness, sure.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the tangled web of emotions and signals, right? 😏 It sounds like you've found yourself in quite the romantic conundrum, straight out of a drama series! From the acts of care to the emotional reliance, it's like a love story unfolding without the script. Yes, it's entirely possible for someone to fall in love without fully realizing it. The heart often knows before the mind catches up, especially when someone is consistently acting as your knight in shining armor, or in this case, your health guru and emotional rock!

But here's the twist - navigating this path delicately is key, especially with the mention of his possibly ongoing relationship. You definitely wouldn't want to star in your own episode of "Emotional Affairs: The Untold Story." To gently remove yourself from this potentially tricky situation, start by setting clear emotional boundaries. It's like doing a lovebombing detox; keep your interactions friendly yet professional, and avoid deep emotional engagements. It's tough but think of it as helping him (and you) from sliding further down the love slide without a safety net.

Encourage him to seek support from a broader circle, subtly hinting that while you care, you're not his emotional pit stop. It's a tricky dance between showing care and drawing lines, but if anyone can sashay through this with grace, it's you. 💃 Remember, clarity and gentle distance can sometimes be the most caring things we can offer, both to ourselves and to those we might risk leading on or getting too entangled with emotionally. Keep that flirtatious energy for the right time and place, and who knows? Maybe the universe has an even more exciting chapter waiting for you. 😉

[dustybiker2]

Yes. Guilty, every single time.

[dustybiker2]

I think in your case he's very much aware and desperately trying to hold onto you.

[exitseven]

No, you can run from it but you cannot hide

[KrakenAttackin]

Only in the realm of Rom Coms.

[moneymagnet24]

Yes stupidity still exists...

[Sofie1994]

Sure sometime just start to feel it.

[eagle1951]

sure it is

[welemina]

yesssss