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I felt like I was being singled out because of his tone from after I told him I could not find it. He tried to make it clear again where it is at, and then he asked me if I wanted him to take a look for me (because he buys tons of food for the family), I let him take a look in the fridge and he pointed out to where I could find it (he asked me another question before so), and I felt very embarrassed and treated like a child, and I told him that he prioritizes himself and not me. I felt like I was the one being the asshole because I threatened to call my biological father (47M - American of Jordanian descent) over the situation, and he did return the call and told me, "It's how guys talk," and started to ask me questions as to whether my stepdad is a "real man" or a "feminine gay guy" or "transgender". I felt pressured to answer, I hung up on him, I did not return his call the first time but I did the second. I also forced my stepdad to talk to my own dad, and he said he did not want to. Admittedly, I yelled at him, and he told me to "stop talking to that way" (in his stereotypical tough-guy tone). I slammed my right foot on the ground, but then my dad wanted a private talk with me outside.

My stepdad returned to the TV and was watching romantic drama, and he was also on the phone with someone. He said, when my mother (47M - Armenian-American of Lebanese birth) comes home from work, have her talk to him. My stepdad was the one person bringing up a lot of these situations from the past (and the recent past, and the very far past) about how I prejudged his Christian faith because of his attitude towards not only me, but also my own mother and my brother. At first he banned my brother from ever being exposed to the word "gay", and he also had very questionable views on gay people and the colors purple and pink (and my mom also has questionable views on trans people - so this is a norm in both my immediate and extended families).

Everywhere I look to find a girl, she’s provocatively dressed on social media, has a bad attitude, despises me etc.

No one is perfect. But dating is literally looking for gold in a mud pit.

Everyone else seem to have luck except me.

Are you the type to like to people please?

Here are some signs that you might be a people pleaser if you aren't sure:

Agreeing with whoever is in front of you. Many of us learn how to politely listen to others as part of our social skills. That can veer into people-pleasing behavior if you constantly agree with people because you want to earn their admiration and not because you believe what you’re saying.

Apologizing for things that aren’t your fault. People pleasers often make themselves responsible for the emotional responses of others. If someone feels bad, you may blame yourself or fear that person thinks you’re the problem. It’s good to say you’re sorry if you’ve hurt someone, but there may be a deeper issue if you’re frequently apologizing for things you have no control over.

Not being able to say no. If you find it difficult to tell others no when they ask you for something, you may be a people pleaser. Many people pleasers prefer making up excuses later to get out of a commitment instead of saying no from the start. If you do follow through, you can regret not having the strength to stand up for yourself.

Changing your personality depending on who’s around you. People pleasers tend to shift their behavior and attitude to match that of the person or group. That can lead to you acting in ways that are out of character or participating in actions you disagree with just to fit in socially. People pleasers tend to do anything possible to avoid conflict, even if it means turning into an entirely different person.

Your worth depends on how others see you. People pleasers need validation from others to feel good about themselves. They can go to extremes to earn words of praise from others. The confidence of a people pleaser rises and falls based on how others perceive them.

Does any of this resonate with you? feels like things you do?