I think this would be an unstable household. If I disagree on something and tried voicing my own opinion in a civilized manner, it was seen as backtalking already. So basically I had to agree to everything they did or said, even on something I really believe was unfair, not right.
For instance, I didn't like the way my parents once treated a Mexican maid. They treated her badly for that reason. They're straight forward racists but I was just 10 and had to keep my mouth shut.
I can understand a spoiled brat that gives their parents attitude and screaming after being kindly asked to help around the house. That wasn't the case with me.
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I felt as if I didn't have any voice as a kid nor during my early-mid teen years. Even a kind, disagreement (just for the reason I'm already disagreeing with them) was considered me challenging them and backtalking.
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I had an ex that treated me like your parents treated you.. I kid you not, I was not allowed to back talk her or contradict (disagree with) her.. Suffice it to say she was violent when I did either of those things. I absolutely am happy I got away from her, and thank God I never had kids with her.
That's an awful relationship. In my case, I was happy after turning 18 and moving out of the house.
When they've done enough research to have a valid reason for their opinion and understand that not everyone is going to agree with them; in which case, it doesn't become an argument
The good thing is google and youtube makes it easier nowadays than in the past.
At age 5~7, this is when kids start having their own opinion not bound directly to the parents.
"backtalking" is an opionion the parents have.