Is my wife mad?

Question

So my wife has had a very short temper with me lately. Ever sense Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day we had a plan and my mother ruined it. Our plan was she would go out with her mom and grandmother, and then she would come home and we would do Mother’s Day with our kids then go to my mothers for dinner. My mother didn’t go with the plan and came over and stayed the whole day. So my wife didn’t get to have time with me and our children. I also didn’t have time to go get her a gift after she spent some time helping me with my mothers. I feel so bad. Then today she was up all night with both our kids who came up with food poisoning. Our oldest has a birthday and we planned on going to the zoo and going to the beach for a road trip. My wife has saved up$389 to help with the hotel and zoo tickets and her family was gonna give us $150 to help with gas. I was stressing about money and gave up looking for hotels or and Air bnbs so my wife suggested just going for the day instead and she would just drive us there. i kinda got irritated with her and she got up and said “it’s fine don’t stress over the hotel cuz we are only doing a day trip” and started unpacking the bags and car stuff she already prepared, we have enough money where not hurting I just rather not spend it. Before that when I got home. She was clearly exhausted from staying up all night and we had a plan to go look at a new boarding stable for our horses and she wanted me to go. She said we are getting ready to leave in 30 mins and I fell asleep. I woke up to her saying
She’s leaving. When I asked her where she’s going she got grumpy and has just been short with me

perpetualsadnessss · Accepted Answer

Yes. I quite honestly don't blame her. It sounds like she's having a rough time, where nothing is going like she plans it too. Not to mention she seems to be planning lot. She's burnt out, which happens to all of us. I would definitely try and help as much as possible with whatever she's doing. Secondly, no offence but purely by your actions, it seems you forgot to show her you appreciate her. To start I would get her a present, something nice, it doesn't matter mother days is gone. I would just get her something out of the blue and say you appreciate the last month hasn't gone to plan and she's been working her ass off with the kids. Secondly, I would plan something nice for the family all by myself. It could be creating a small picnic in a nice place? Cooking and washing up after a meal? Organise a movie night with just you and your wife? Maybe, book her a massage ans stay with the kids? (Sorry I dont know what your wife likes) Just to show you do really care and you're using incentive to plan things by yourself to help her out. It's all about being a team and letting the other person know their hard work is valued. I promise kind words and actions go a long way.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

you didn't have time to get her a gift (last minute gift it seems like) that you could have planned out a few weeks prior? also, after stressing, she calmly suggests a different plan, after dealing with sick children. it seems like she feels like she has to baby you and her children and has to hide all of her feelings or else everything will fall apart.

i'd say she's fed up

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Ohh , look with all of that happening , she is sleep deprived , you got sick children , the mother thing , its just all built up , firstly just make sure she can get some decent sleep , its just one of those situations that was ( partly ) unavoidable , this is why I hate making plans on days like mothers day , expectation never matches what actually happens , she will be fine , cut her some slack , and take the kids somewhere and let her rest.

Billlewis · Accepted Answer

It sure sounds like it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes she is mad. And it's result of all small small events and disappointment and being such situations where she is unable to rest or get some rest time for herself. You not giving attention and comfort she needs now. All this clubbed together made her cross her limits of her patience. And you are wrong to say she is short tempered instead your attitude towards her makes her this way. If you could understand and support her emotionally she can get better.