Is normal that a guy goes really bitter after rejection?

[Anonymous]

I have a brother and he is 20 years old. I would say he is pretty good looking. I know about many girls who were crushing on him. He had one relationship but it didn't last too long. Now he was really into one girl. She liked him first and had crush on him for a long time. They were seeing each other for some time. I know they kissed few times and dont know if anything more. It looked like they will be couple really soon. But then she rejected him. No one saw it coming. It really hurt him. It happened seven months ago. He says he is done with dating. He could have more girls if he wanted but he just looks so uninterested. He is really bitter towards dating and couples. He spends time only with his friends and drinking. He plays soccer and almost all guys he plays with are like 28 years old single guys. I am kinda afraid he is becoming like them. My brother was always ok being alone and single. He always wanted to travel on his own but i just dont want him end up alone cuz i think he is good guy. He treated that girl well, he was nice, kind and sweet to her. But his attitude now is really bad. He is like what is the point of dating and why would he do it again to himself.

[SteveSmith1985]

No. That's not normal. He's talking to a bunch of guys who are feeding him shitty views... and he's open to that right now because he's hurt. But no this is not normal. This is how those fucked-up guys with jaw-droppingly messed-up views and attitudes about women... can often start. It's guys like your brother (who feel like they've been badly burned or misteated) or the guys who feel they're hopelessly ugly and destined to live and die alone... who end up in some of the darkest places when it comes to being bitter and having skewed views on women.

I don't know how to pull him out of this exactly. But I think you are absolutely right to be concerned. Probably even more concerned than you are. It depends on who he's listening to. Right now, he's bitter, but it doesn't sound like it's as bad as it could be attitudes-wise. But... there is a lot of really messed-up stuff a little further down the road he's on. It depends on whether he decides to feed his bitterness (by going to certain online spaces for example) or if he just... plays socker with some guys for a while, and one day a pretty girl makes him forget all this "what's the point" bullshit. But... I think you're definitely right to be concerned.

[mark000h]

Yes, it is normal. If a guy tries to be the best version of himself and is repeatedly rejected, he will give up. Many guys nowadays have thrown in the towel because women have tons of options, but very few guys have options. Many guys can't get any girlfriend at all.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. It's called true love. He had a deep connection with her and he really cared about her. I can completely empathize with how he feels.

[Alpha714]

Its like dog without bone... So don't engage 🤣🤣🤣