How do I deal with my mom?

[Anonymous]

My mom is very short tempered. She quarrels with everyone, my dad included. When she loses it, as in she gets tired of us responding to her attitude she beats us really bad and she doesn't stop until we cry or until she sees we're hurt apparently. I can't report it and my dad doesn't do anything when she does what she does. She's very sweet but she just has an anger and being rude triggers it. The thing is once you object, it's considered rude. Some things you have to object to because that's just life and I'm not 5 anymore. I'm not intentionally rude, she just expects everyone to literally act like we're programmed to attend to her needs and if we go against it she's either throwing threats like knocking all of our teeth out or attempting the threats. It's hard to handle someone being that all the time. She also looks for every reason to take our phones away. Even for unreasonable things, I'm even considering giving it away just so she can stay off my case. How do I deal with this? I just want a peaceful home☹️ and even though I'm 16 I can't move at 18 next year because I'll still be in school.

[D_Bone_Steak]

That's rough and it reminds me of my own Mom. I would suggest saying the phone was stolen to make it no longer a target.

I don't think you'll find a fix... my Mom hasn't changed anything at all her entire life. It was hell dealing with her drunk ass losing her own beer and getting blamed for it

every

single

time.

Some people just cannot be reasoned with. As long as she has power over you, the best you can probably do is play the game and stay out of her radar as much as you can.

[OfMiceandMen]

Can you talk to another family member? Maybe an aunt or grandmother that would take you in...

I don't think you should stay in the house, if there is the potential to stay with someone else. It's a lot to ask someone, but given you circumstance, they may be able to help out.

[Paris13]

Sounds like Mommy Dearest has a Big problem in her mind and Could need Meds and Therapy. Dad needs to Get her There or Someone could End up in a Fatality. Hormone Imbalance too. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xxoo

[NathanDavis]

yes you can report it...


just like you "reported it" here to G@G, but do so with relatives, family, at school, a doctor... police, 911, firemen, social services, neighbors, friends...

you can certainly report it

[Asker]

She'll kick me out and she already said she doesn't care about the police. She doesn't beat us regularly but when she does it's really bad, that's all and it's common in Caribbean homes so why report it then

[Asker]

I also tried talking to my guidance counselor at school but they have to report cases like these. Also my mom is a guidance counselor, she knows the ones at my school and many others so I'm not risking that. My other family members are similar to my mom, it's just only my mom goes above and beyond

[NathanDavis]

report it directly with the school district

[DryGermanGuy]

Convince your father to slap her around a few times, so that she will learn what it means. I am normally not for beating women, but in this case it feels warranted. 🤬