How do you deal with a mom who always fat shames you?

[Anonymous]

I’m actually fit now and I have told her so many times to stop. Even though I’m not fat now, I was a bit chubby when I was younger and still get body dysmorphia. Never expected her to still act this immature as a mother but she thinks it’s hilarious and laughs about it. Honestly it hurts my feelings a lot and I don’t know how to deal with this anymore.

[Thatbaldguy]

Personally I live by multiple sayings/ mindsets. One if which is “just because there is blood doesn’t mean there has to be love”
Your mother sounds toxic and sounds like she os projecting her own body insecurities onto you. That is a tough spot to be in. My girlfriend is in a similar one. Unfortunately it has led to a lot of emotional evenings after seeing her mother. And an easy solution really hasn’t been found. I just do my best to be as supportive of my girlfriend and tell her how beautiful she is and to ignore her mothers body shaming. Does it work? I guess. What I do with toxic family is I dont keep them in my life. That simple. (Back to the saying from earlier) I am of the opinion I have been through enough and would rather be alone and happy then miserable in a room of people that are the cause of that misery.

[jayhams]

Don't give weight to her words. She talks like that because she is a moron. She is either passing her trauma to you or she is compensating for her own low self worth.

[Anonymous]

Tell her that her husband has a poor taste in women

or tell her that she is not a model material either so no room for her to judge unless she is emily ratajkowski look alike

[HateyouxD]

I dealt with the same bullshit honestly if your moms fat I'll call her the fuck out

[DrBanana]

Not to pry too hard but is she a larger lady herself?


It could just be a really hard self projection onto you.