My girlfriend thinks she’s fat even though she looks fine. How do I deal with this?

[Anonymous]

I love my girlfriend and she’s hands down gorgeous, but she’s got kind of a potbelly that she worries about sometimes. Can I hear everybody’s thoughts?

[Effably]

If you want us to say what she looks like to us I will need a better photo. Based on this one I'd wager the guess she could benefit from some exercise but its hard to say and really something you both know the truth of without asking.

As for you dealing with it, is it not simple? She can see herself however she wants but reality is you're her boyfriend and arguably the one who gets a say in the matter. If you think she's smoking gorgeous that means she is smoking gorgeous and she can't change that.
I think this is one of those times where being forceful is fine. If you say she is pretty she is and you get to say that as much and often as you want and that is just your privilege as her guy. Sometimes you just need to make that much clear. Repeared uncompromising validation can be good for us.

[Asker]

Dang man that’s a lot of big words😂

[Asker]

But thanks I needed to hear that

[Effably]

Just snap her nose and tell her she's pretty until she stops thinking otherwise? Really my whole point is to drive home that it is your call, not her's.

[hahahmm]

Raise your standards & stop simping. I'm not saying you need to dump her but you need to dump your beggar's mentality.

A pot belly isn't normal. Stop lying to her and telling her not to do something about it. She either has a medical condition she needs checked or she needs to stop being such a lush & donut addict. Exercise is a thing.

[Asker]

First of all I’m not simping I’m just ok with the way she looks, and second you need to stop being such a douche bag, I love my girlfriend and I really don’t mind her potbelly I actually think it’s kinda cute

[hahahmm]

1. If you really cared about her you'd be concerned about her HEALTH. 2. The truth hurts... emotional simps. Get over it. Stop thinking with your dick.

[Asker]

I’m not concerned about her health, she’s overall a healthy person. And I’m fine with the way she looks and I love her either way

[Derekk]

Does she trust that you're really into her? I find that's often the issue. They just can't believe that their SO can actually like and accept their bodies. I've dated women with similar mindsets and the best you can do is just ask her to accept that you're telling the truth about how you feel, and that trust is something more important than weight.

[Asker]

Bro you should be like a therapist or something cause that made me feel a lot better as well as my girlfriend, thanks man

[SupremeWarlord]

If she's really unhappy about her body, then I think this is more about herself than you, tell her that you are willing to help her in any decision she might make. If she wants to lose fat, tell her you'll support her through this, without being judgmental on the process.

That's what I would do.

[Asker]

Thanks for the feedvafk

[Asker]

Feedback

[anylolone]

It can be both. She can be fat and look fine for you.

You can't actually solve other people's self-esteem issues.

[Asker]

You’re right, thanks for the feedback

[Anonymous]

You're ugly girlfriend is NOT gorgeous stfu

[Asker]

Why the hell would anyone feel the need to say that?

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry I was just trolling

[Asker]

You’re good

[In_Trance]

What do you mean how do you deal with this?

[Asker]

How do I convince her otherwise?

[In_Trance]

You don't

[Asker]

Why not?

[In_Trance]

Think of how hard it is for you to change yourself or your way of thinking and you'll quickly realize you have absolutely no chance of changing someone else

[Asker]

I don’t wanna change her but she does

[Sketti2021]

I think you are female wondering what people think

[Asker]

What makes you say that?

[bigchanges]

She is fat

[Asker]

Bro shut up