At first, she had a crush on me, but i wasn't into her. Then, she found someone else, and i was happy for her. But i was starting to feel something for her and she's broken up with his bofriend about 1 year ago. 4 years have passed, we're still friends and meet in a common group of friends. I can't stop thinking about her, and everyday feels less worthy of being lived. I feel empty... any girl i meet and get to know doesn't compare to her (not in terms of looks, but in terms of how attracted i am) and it's starting to become a problem.
I wish i never met her... it'd have made my life way easier. Any time i think i forgot about her, our group manages to hang out, i meet her and she's always the same. Always that attractive girl i've fallen in love with, always that smile, always the same attitude. I've never felt good enough for any girl, let alone her. I need help.
Also: How do i feel enough for dating?
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Man, you need to see if this girl might be open to becoming involved romantically with you. A lot of time has passed, and there's nothing in here that makes her someone you can't/shouldn't pursue. She had a crush on you in the past. That means its at least within the realm of possibility that she might see you romantically.
Besides dude... you rejected HER. I'll say it again... YOU REJECTED HER.
Not the other way around. (and even then... that was a long time ago...)
So why are you sitting there loving this girl to the point that it's becoming a problem... rather than DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
She is single. Do you really think no other guy is going to see what's special about this girl too? Don't you think some guy who IS willing to do something about it... will see in her what you see in her?
She's is single. You are single. You are already friends. You rejected her in the past. What the hell are you waiting for man? This is not going to ever happen unless you do something to try and make it happen. And it's sitting RIGHT THERE in front of you. You guys already hang out... you're crazy about her... she used to have a crush on you...
Dude... these are what opportunities look like. If you sit back and do nothing, then you're never going to get the girl. You do still have to reach-up and actually stick-your-hand-out and grab that low-hanging fruit when it's presented to you. Right now you're bitching about being hungry, when all you need to do is lift your goddamn arm up and grab that fruit that's literally in front of your face. There is no reason to be hungry and unhappy. That's just fucking dumb. C'mon dude... things... don't have to be this way. You don't have to feel this way. What do you have to lose? If it doesn't work out... then you're just in the same exact spot as you are today. But if it does work out... that shit will change your life man. You need to do something about this. It's so easy to in this situation. What are you waiting for? For her to have a boyfriend again so you can be justified in feeling shitty about yourself? Do something man. Do something.
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