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He was away at college, that is where I knew him from. We were kinda friendly acquaintances, but generally had some low key sexual tension. He began to express more clearly that he was interested in exploring that side with me. I told him I was seeing other people bc I didn’t want him to feel played, an he said it didn’t matter to him. Since I live 30 minutes from campus he just spent the night. Yes, we hooked up and we slept in the same bed—twice except we didn’t go all the way the second time. Also had a couple head sesh’s/FaceTime/sexting. He’d call me boo & baby & send cute emojis. But 3 times he’d delete or block me and then reappear claiming his phone was messed up and you know I wouldn’t delete you boo... He graduated this term and deleted me again an I didn’t hear from him for a bit. I thought we’d had a little misunderstanding an never got to say bye so I sent a fairly long text saying I understand if he’s moving forward but was sorry I didn’t get to say bye an I enjoyed our times together an he’s the best. He sent back kind of a formalish but friendly reply thanking me for helping on his journey and being there an time together. That I was the best and he’d never forget another me that I know that. Sent back a 💞 an we didn’t talk since.

Fast forward 2 months later this girl adds me on tiktok. I accept an add her back. It’s when I start watching her videos that I discover she’s been dating this guy before last semester even started. One even showed her gushing over the texts he’d sent her like the same months we were hanging. I still wonder what made her add me to begin with but here’s the problem. Clearly I was a fling it’s fine, but I feel bad for her. Obviously he was playing both sides of it an that’s probably why he’d delete me. Should I tell her, especially since I no longer have the texts that clearly show him cheating. Or should I just let it go as him deleting me with no further contact shows he’s straightened up and being loyal now?

I met a guy online who told me he stayed on dating sites for 3 years. He told me he never had sex with anyone except for one girl three years ago. He travelled all the way to my city for four hours just to meet me.

When I first met him, I did pull away, but then he tried to prove that not all men are the same. He didn't force me to have sex with him. But then he told me something that somehow scared me—he doesn't want to commit. I did not bother to think about it and just had a good time with him. We shared a lot of talks, fun, and walks. We were both happy and just sending out positive vibes until we had sex together.

After the two days we spent together, he said he had to leave me to visit his friend "girl" in another city, which is 30 minutes away. I was curious about it, but he said she is just a family friend, and they have been friends for many years and are very close. Her family is already his family. He stayed there for three days, and I did not bother to overthink it.

We still communicated together right after he left, and we have been calling and texting each other for three weeks now, getting to know each other better. He eventually told me that he wanted to get serious about me; he sent a lot of kiss and hug emoticons. We become more comfortable with each other.

Now, he told me he wants to drop by to see me in the city next week. I asked him, "Where are you going?" He said to his friend, "Girl," again for two days, but his ultimate goal is to meet me.

I felt uncomfortable and scared if he was telling the truth, and I somehow doubted that this girl could be his girlfriend or fling. I pulled away again from him, even if it did hurt me a lot, and said I needed space.

Now my question is, do I need advice on whether I shouldn't be jealous of this friend's "girl" OR should I be suspicious and cautious of this guy?