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I created a dating profile 3 weeks ago to get some confidence since I was going through an insecure time, wasn’t really looking for anyone. Some men messaged me, but one guy stood out. He gave off this “I come as is” vibe which struck a cord with me for some reason so I exchanged socials with him to remain contact and deleted the app. Time continues and we’re talking every day, and things are going great.

He disclosed that he had to join the army right out of high school since he had gotten his then-girlfriend pregnant and now has a baby girl. He just started working a full time job and plans to go to a community college to earn his degree whereas I’m in graduate school with no kids. I understood him and we continued to grow from there. Then, the other night, I told him to visit me (we live 2 hours away from each other, and I requested that we meet in the middle so drive isn’t too bad).

He disclosed he didn’t have a paycheck from his job yet but would only need about $40 for gas. I paid for his gas, food, and toy for his dog while we hanged out the following day. He then asked me what particular app we met on since he had over 5 that has been used for over a month. He stated that girls would talk for a couple of days then leave, but I never left so he deleted them all (or he claims). He had a very neutral decision on sex like “if you want it, sure. If not, it’s fine.” But we ended up having sex anyway because I was very smitten with him at that time.

I asked if we were together as boyfriend/girlfriend since the first date went great and he said he likes me but not ready for that yet since he wants to know me more (even though I told him I’m an open-book) and wants to go on more dates. I agreed since I didn’t really have a choice and now after a day has passed, he isn’t really talking to me much and doesn’t seem interested anymore like leaving me on read. I’m not sure what to do because I spent over $100 on the date and was hoping he’d help pay some of that back.

I work at a school and have feelings for a colleague. We talk and text regularly. Once, he told our mutual friend he doesn't date in the workplace. I'm leaving in a week and my crush has been helping me job search. Recently, there were days when he would text first 2-3 days in a row. We seemed to have become good friends, having heart-to-hearts. Last Saturday, there was an elementary graduation, and prior to it he had asked me if I'm going. We talked about a student whose parents aren't present much, and he suggested we take the family photo with him if his parents didn't show up. When I got to the grad, it seemed I'd missed a text from him asking where I was. He was already seated in the front row and I took an open seat in the row behind. A few mins later, I finally noticed his text. Once it was time to socialize, I decided to congratulate the students, who I think of like my own children, before going over to chat with him. He started chatting with others. But, the conversations and picture taking took longer than I thought, and when I was done he was gone. I found him at his work desk. We had a moment alone. Eventually, I wanted to get back to the party, he went home. I left with the students and noticed him still in sight, walking towards the station. I called out to him, and we took a pic together with some kids. Since then, we've had conversations and text but there's also this other girl who seems to flirt with him at work. Yesterday was my last day with the students, and I've been super emotional. After the kids left, I went straight to see him. But, the other girl was there. He was showing her videos of students, and they laughed together. My former teacher is my colleague and his co-teacher, so she's usually in the room too. I sat with her, and she whispered that she thinks they like each other. I eventually left. Since then, our text convos seem to be short. I can't tell if I've lost my chance or if I'm just emotional.