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I’ve been A and somewhat B. There was a time in my 20s I got a lot of attention. Lots of women told me I was cute and handsome back then. I could approach any woman and literally say anything and get away with it. I was never aggressive dbag but i could flat out make sexual jokes/remarks back then and at worst a girl would laugh out of amusement (even if she wasn’t interested).

The only time I ever really got turned down back the is if the girl was already taken. But even taken girls would often chat with me and sometimes give out there number (but they wouldn’t respond to texts/calls). I would only find out later they had bfs.

However I did have a few bad experiences. I had two girls actively stalking me in college. I’ve had random drunk women grope me in clubs/bars. I’ve had one woman get angry and trying to shove me when I turned her down. I’ve had other guys try to throw me under the bus out of jealousy. But those incidents were few and far between.

Now I’ve gotten older I’m not the baby faced 24 year old I once was. I am still in excellent physical shape but I‘m not going to go walking around shirtless (unless it’s at the beach or something).

Overall it’s been a lot tougher approaching women. Although I have gotten more aware of their body language and I’ve gotten better at my game it’s insanely tough now. I have very little wiggle room to make any mistakes. If i say or do anything even remotely considered “creepy” it’s game over. It doesn’t matter if it was unintentional or not. Nor does it matter if the girl even knows it was unintentional. I’m being held to a much higher standard.

But I am curious what women honestly have to say about this. I was surprised that some prefer B. I sure as hell don’t.

A lot of women are taking advantage and even defrauding unsuspecting men at bars and nightclubs around my city.

First incident occurred at a nightclub. I was talking to this girl and offered to buy us drinks. She requested 2 shots of expensive liquor. I brought back the drinks and some guy she was associated with and claimed was her "transportation" quickly approached and chugged both shots down and they both hurried out of there.

The second and most serious incident occurred today. Two girls approached us claiming to be college students were talking to me and my roommate and we carried on a conversation. We later approached them and offered to buy them drinks. They requested our credit cards and was wanting to buy us all drinks on our behalf. Immediately, red flags started showing and we handed them some cash instead. They approached the bar and stood there a long time. They waited until we turned out backs and they disappeared. Imagine if I was stupid enough to hand them my debit card!

I contacted the police and the local news, as an officer told me this has been happening a lot at bars around here.

I guess women continue to screw up a man's life all the time.