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Help me, science nerds. I suck at science. I've been wondering this for a long time. Inquiring minds need to know.

I don't want to keep a spoon in my coffee while I'm drinking it, but I'm interested in when I'm making it up (and using a hand frother to make up some foam for a pseudo cappuccino), if in that interim, after stirring in the sugar, should I keep the spoon in or take the spoon out? Which will keep the coffee hotter longer?

I think the layer of milk foam does help to retain the heat a bit, making a somewhat protective 'cloud pocket' I'm calling it. But would a spoon sitting in it while I'm doing this pull heat or retain heat?

Would you change your answer depending on the mug material? Ex: ceramic, bone china, glass, metal, plastic, paper cup. Obviously metal is far more conductive than paper and plastic, and ceramic and bone china are... what... in the middle of efficiency? I always use ceramic mugs at home.

I've tried various things to keep my one cup of coffee as hot as possible for as long as possible. I have a hotplate. It tends to burn the coffee, even on low temperatures. 176F seems to be the best temp to drink the coffee, but it burns. Lower temperatures will burn the coffee when the quantity is lower in the mug (about halfway empty; or halfway full, lol).

I also have a ceramic top/lid. I'm back to using that a lot now. I find it works the best. But, of course, you have to keep taking it on and off for every sip.

I don't use coffee makers, so there is no pot to pull from. It's too much volume of coffee. I"m sensitive to caffeine.

Anyway, any science-y thoughts or advice, I'm interested. Use all the jargon. Talk over my head,, lol. The more science, the better...

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We met on a dating app—no, not Tinder—and he messaged me first. We talked for a few days and clicked fast. We’re both artists learning tattooing, traded art, hyped each other up, then moved to texting. He kept asking for selfies, calling me beautiful, and sending his back. He was cute, fit, tall enough without being towering, and covered in tattoos like me.

He wanted to hang out and hook up, but I needed childcare, so we planned for him to come over while my six-month-old napped and I monitored the baby the whole time. He even offered Starbucks and gas-station snacks, which I declined. When he arrived he hugged me, took off his shoes without being asked, admired my gaming setup, and cuddled with me on the couch. He complimented my hair, touched it gently, then kissed me. We hooked up and the chemistry was real—he was attentive, no awkwardness, very compatible.

Afterward we talked, and he said he’d probably come over again the next day. Before he came over I’d warned him my ex’s belongings were still there in trash bags by the door. When he noticed them at the end of the night he tensed and said I should get rid of them. I agreed, and he relaxed. He hugged and kissed me goodbye. I noticed dimples I’d never seen in photos, told him they were cute, and he abruptly said goodnight.

The next day he barely replied. Then out of nowhere he texted, “I think I’m gay lmao.” I couldn't tell if he was kidding. He said he was serious and had been thinking about it. I noticed he’d unmatched me on the app. I respected it but asked if this was just him disappearing after sex. He said it wasn’t about me, just stuff in his head. I told him if he ever figured things out he could text me. He promised he would and sent a black heart. We haven’t spoken since.

I’m 25, he’s 27, and I’d just left an abusive relationship. I wasn’t naïve—just enjoying my freedom. Still, the whole thing doesn’t make sense.